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[philts]

Good to see all different views, just goes to prove that many people can like the same thing (LB's) but are different personalities.

Very much agree with comments made by PeterK.

When he said he feels guilty about cheating on his wife it's good that he does but at the same time occassional casual sex or paying fo sex is not "cheating" in my book.

Cheating is when you give your heart (love) to someone else, that should never be forgiven.

[Legend]

thats an interesting angle with regards to cheating.
so would it be ok if your wife payed me to give her one once a month?
or would she mind if she found out you have casual sex?

i was aware that one slip up and you are up the road, clothes in a bin liner back to your parents house.
while she decides if you get to see your kids on a saturday.

[pog1701]

Call it Catholic guilt if you will, I know my choices are limited very much to fat Irish birds, though if I could acquire a super sexy GG from Thailand I could not handle cheating on her with a LB guilt would kill me. So right now I have selected butterfly lifestyle and if I am lonley for 48 weeks of the year I either go to the pub or the gym.

I know this is not a very mature or fulfilling lifestyle, but thats what happens when you are a victim of arrested development.

[peterk]

Good to see all different views, just goes to prove that many people can like the same thing (LB's) but are different personalities.

Very much agree with comments made by PeterK.

When he said he feels guilty about cheating on his wife it's good that he does but at the same time occassional casual sex or paying fo sex is not "cheating" in my book.

Cheating is when you give your heart (love) to someone else, that should never be forgiven.

Philts you have hit the nail on the head mate although i did describe what i do as cheating i have tried to explain to my friends that i don't regard p4p as cheating in the real sense coz i don't have a true relationship with any other women apart from my wife who i do love! this may be hard for some people to believe but that is how i feel. I have only loved my wife in the 19 years that we have been together but have shagged about a 100 women!

[freebirdabc]

Cheating is when you give your heart (love) to someone else, that should never be forgiven.

[...]describe what i do as cheating i have tried to explain to my friends that i don't regard p4p as cheating in the real sense coz i don't have a true relationship with any other women apart from my wife who i do love!

It's still cheating. Sex and love? Two completely separate things, I agree on that. But to me, love should be based on honesty and trust, not on a lie.

Fucking other girls without telling her is just selfish. Telling her and giving her the chance to do same like you is fair.

If you know that she would leave you if you tell her that you fuck other girls you should leave your wife/gf if you actually love her.

Once again, everybody will totally disagree with me...

[Phil Lander]

The cheating aspect is something that had been bothering me . Once I did it I never looked back and felt regret but I never did it at home as I did'nt want anyone telling the wife . Call me selfish but having sex about three or four times a year because she was too tired or I did'nt feel like it got me in the habit of masturbating to LB porn so I guess that would be considered cheating too.

I decided that me going with a working girl was better than going to the pub and finding a bit on the side as that could have lead to something serious . I have been through my parents getting divorced twice each and did'nt really want to go through that myself.

However I am getting a divorce now so I could possibly find a girlfriend and never go back to Thailand , I'm no longer a spring chicken so have to take what I can get , only I wont be taking any BingoWings .

We have a saying her about people being in the GST club (VAT for the UK) . You start off with your fortune , get 50% after your first divorce , 25% after your second divorce and 12.5% (GST) after your third. I dont ever want to be in that position .

[funsunfish]

I was married for 8 years, 3 kids. Divorced now for 4 years. Been to LOS with then wife 3 times, and didnt look at what was on offer, in fact never had any boom boom on the side during my whole marriage. Now have a huge child support debt $800,000 over next twelve years. Been to Pattaya 3 times in last 12 months and it has changed my outlook on life. I now feel physically and emotionally free both at home and in LOS. I dont want a relationship with a western woman because I never will risk my assets again. With what I was left with after divorce, I can still just afford Los and support my kids. I get 'Loved' enough in LOS to satisfy me !

[batman4ever]

, I'm no longer a spring chicken so have to take what I can get , only I wont be taking any BingoWings .

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in Denmark we say that the diff. between a Bingoparty...and a singleparty is,............... that if youre lucky at the bingo...you come home with a half pig......if youre UNlucky at the single party...you get the whole pig with you home... :evil:

[larrylarry]

Well a lot of different views that’s for sure. Also a lot of topics covered. But that’s to be expected with the wide age range, life experience, financial circumstances and locations of the BMs. I have always wondered when reading the different posts about the background of BM writing. So thank you all for sharing.
I live in NYC happily divorced for 15 years with 2 kids that I co-parent. Went through a lot of shit in the course of my separation and it cost me plenty. It was worth it, every penny. I seems that all my married friends are unhappy...or maybe they just like to complain. They all seem to be waiting for something..when the kids move out or retirement or a promotion etc. Its like a selfless, sexless existence. I didn’t sign up for that. I want to live and enjoy life. Shit I am coming up on 50 years old, I want to put the top down on my car and drive while I still have some hair for the wind to go through. HA! I guess I started my mid life crises when I was 25. Hey everyone goes through it, I am just trying to do it with a little style. I complain some times too but at least for the most part I do what I want, I fuck who I want, and I have piece of mind. I hurt no one, I disrespect no one.
I like being single I meet amazing women here and enjoy their company. I treat them very well they treat me wonderfully and when that changes we part. I have dated all types of women and there is no universal truth some are nice some are bitches. The last few years I have been with mostly younger Asian women. When my contemporaries ask me why I date these girls, I simply ask them.. wouldn’t you if you could?
Thailand is amazing the LB are incredible. I have been drawn to them for over 20 years. My first real exposure to TGs happen when I was leaving a Grateful Dead concert at Madison Square Garden. I was high on mescalin and qualudes and I strayed in to Eldewise a now defunct TG bar. What a scene! I went back sober a week later just make sure it was real. Now I am heading back to LOS for my second trip (maybe just to make sure it was real).
I feel some times I given up a lot for my life style. But really I have given up nothing

[laptop]

This weekend I have been watching a lot of "2 and a Half Men" with Charlie Sheen and Jon Cryer.

Charlie certainly makes the "no marriage and kids life" look a lot more fun.

[Legend]

my ex girlfriend knows all about my lb trips. 2 and half years later, she still dont get it.
but she once said to me "you are missing out".
racked my brains on this one.
never got chance to ask her what she meant.
can anyone one of you fellas tell me what im apparently missing out on?

[laptop]

If she is is farang maybe you are missing out on some of the following:

Will ya make me tea?
Will you not drink tonight?
I want to go shopping. Will you come?
Why dont you like my friends?
Why are your friends assholes?
Will you lick out my massive growler?

Moan, moan, moan, bla, bla, bla!

Dont really get this with a thai girl. But i presume syour ex "THINKS" you are missing out on herself and all she has got going on. She wants you to be jealous of her possibly