Posted 24 March 2008 - 10:39 PM
I'm with Anthony. I don't want a partner in my life. I love the way my life is now..
All the money I earn is my own, I can do what I want, I never have to answer to anyone. I work freelance too which helps, but if I wake up and want to go to Barcelona for a few days or head back to LOS, or just want to go out with some friends in London, as long is it's within reason I can just go with the flow and do it.
When I go to LOS I can go wild, indulge in my fantasies and inhibitions, I socialise 24/7 and party HARD. I always return home wanting to work and get a few projects going, and I'm lucky in that I do a job I'm passionate about and when I get into something it can be 24/7 for a few weeks or more.
I go out occassionally when I'm home but I enjoy being alone most of this time, and going out with friends or meeting girls when the urge takes me, for the most I like to build it all up for the LOS or other trips and be a bit of a workaholic at home, socialise with other people in my field and get into new work.
I'm happier than most of my mates who are married or in serious relationships, and much much happier than the ones who are single but trying hard to find a partner. Some of my firneds are in a relationship and they are happy, and good for them, but a few who aren't happy think I'm lucky for being able to go away so much, when it has nothing to do with luck, some of them earn as much, if not more money than I do, they just have a partner, kids and /or a home.
Anthony nails it, the problem is a lot of people feel the NEED to be with someone, they just don't feel comfortable being alone. In essense MOST people feel this way and probably don't understand someone who prefers to be single.
I miss having a partner from time to time but it's usually just when I'm feeling bored and/or horny but I think the people I know who are partnered up miss their freedom more.
I know some people like to have a partner and swing etc.. but this just wouldn't do it for me, I can't think of a worse situation for me personally, it's like the worst of both worlds. If I started to feel differently and wanted to have a partner I'd look foward to the exclusivity and emotional attachment of the relationship, but I'm nowhere near wanting that right now. I luvs to party too much.