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[dixon cox]

A lifestyle or a phase...?
I try not to analyse my life too much, I just do what makes me feel good, but I consider it a lifestyle choice.

Particularly since the loss of a good friend of mine, who died before he reached 40 years old (not accidental), has made me reconsider what I was doing with my life. I live for the short-term now and ensure I get some pleasures included before it's too late and before I'm too old or die.

Western women drifted off my radar long ago and I haven't had a relationship with a white woman for over a decade and I don't want one anymore.

I am extrememly happy with my lifestyle right now and guys in the UK who I choose to talk to about it listen with envy and find it hard to believe I can return again and again to LOS for my regular fixes.

I really don't care to hear any negative comments about my lifestyle choices or my sexual preferences from anyone. This is my life and I'll live it how I like and not harm anyone along the way.

I am totally and absolutely absorbed by ladyboys, even GGs maintain only a negligable interest for me, I've had maybe 2 GG fucks since I got divorced 2½ years ago, it's ladyboys exclusively on every trip now.

My plans, work and thoughts are all based around my next trip to LOS and my future availability and plans to retire in Thailand.

Long may my lifestyle continue, I'm divorced with no kids, wonderful.

2 months in LOS in less than 2 weeks from now.

This is the best time of my life.

[tarado]

It is difficult for others to gain any appreciation for ones lifestyle (if we omit the mention of LB preferences).

I think it is too far out of the 'normal' way of living for most people to contemplate eschewing the consumer-driven lifestyle of domesticity. it seems like something they could never fathom doing themselves.

And, if you are like me,..you have been greeted by blank, unbelieving stares as I describe how many girls there are and how it is Disneyland for adults.

I may as well be describing life on Mars in ancient Hebrew language.

dixon cox: "My plans, work and thoughts are all based around my next trip to LOS and my future availability and plans to retire in Thailand.

Long may my lifestyle continue, I'm divorced with no kids, wonderful.

2 months in LOS in less than 2 weeks from now.

This is the best time of my life."

HERE! HERE!!

[philts]

Very interesting thoughts and views expressed but surely it just comes down to the fact that everyone is different.

I know many (yes many) people with wife and children who are very happy and fulfilled.

Most LB hunters, myself included, are quite self centred and not "family types" that's why we go LOS and other cheap sex tourst places.

Enjoy what you do but don't knock others for what they like.

[dixon cox]

Very interesting thoughts and views expressed but surely it just comes down to the fact that everyone is different.

I know many (yes many) people with wife and children who are very happy and fulfilled.

Most LB hunters, myself included, are quite self centred and not "family types" that's why we go LOS and other cheap sex tourst places.

Enjoy what you do but don't knock others for what they like.

I agree with you there philts, but I don't consider myself a sex tourist, but unfortunately others might.

[Legend]

i was hoping this thread wouldnt head down the sexuality road.
i may be classed as a sex tourist, but now ive tasted lb sex, its a hard ride to get off.
if i had a steady lb partner in uk ? maybe i wouldnt have to visit LOS ?

the wife and kids thing is not for me, not interested in male partners, and as we know, once you,ve had lb sex, things are different.

it is an each to his own situation.
if only the the average couple with 2 kids could see life outside of the black and white world that they live in, they would see the rest of the world are having a great time.
but when they stare and judge me for my preferences, i think im in my right to judge them also.

a favourite of mine i like to say to couples.........
"there is 200.000 single men in thailand, and not one of us is wishing we were back with our ex.!"

the day i said adios to my ex, my life got easier and better.

[tarado]

philts:

"Enjoy what you do but don't knock others for what they like."

I think those are wise words. The thing that makes this life so incredible is that we each may choose to make our own expression of life.

Personally, I can't say that I know many married guys - when lubricated with a few drinks - that will not confess how miserable they are. No sex, no time, no spare spending money.

If you know tons of deleriously happy couples,..great. I ain't seeing them.

[batman4ever]

the day i said adios to my ex, my life got easier and better.

you forgot Cheaper...

[oze]

I'm a little confused by some of the responses in here, maybe it is because I am only 22, in Univesity and haven't really experienced life the same way you guys have.

However, I do believe some of the responses posted here do come across as ridiculously selfish.

I'm not really going to elaborate on that, but that is my impression. I'm not judging, you guys are your own people, you do control your own money and sexual relations, but the way you guys talk about it (maybe it's just because you're on this message board with other like-minded people) seems really low. Maybe it's like some kind of 'jaded old working man' syndrome

Anyway, I'm not too sure what this TranSexual/LadyBoy 'faze' is for me, I know that I have been into them for a long, long time and have several encounters and believe it's the best sex on Earth. However, I still want a wife and kids, and believe those two can offer things that a ladyboy and the sex they give cannot, so I'm not thinking too much into it and am just enjoying my life as is

Sorry if I've offended some of you guys, but that wasn't my intent, it was just a 3rd person's perspective

Party on! :twisted:

[peterk]

Very interesting thoughts and views expressed but surely it just comes down to the fact that everyone is different.

I know many (yes many) people with wife and children who are very happy and fulfilled.

Most LB hunters, myself included, are quite self centred and not "family types" that's why we go LOS and other cheap sex tourst places.

Enjoy what you do but don't knock others for what they like.

I agree with you mate. I have a wife and 3 kids and i am happy i wouldn't swap them for anything. I have been to LOS 3 times shagged quite a lot of girls but only a few LB's on the last 2 trips and liked the experience. You must be thinking what a hypocrite!. I even have a good sexual relationship with my wife we have sex 2 or 3 times a week on average. My wife is good looking ,not fat and 42 can easily pass for 32(has less strechmarks than some much younger bar girls). She is also a very good person at heart. Every time i cheat on her i do feel guilty but my problem is i am hooked on sex with different partners i get bored very easily.
I think that because people are different they have their own views on what is best for them. However we must not force our opinions on others or disrespect the feelings of others. There seems to be too much anti-falang women, marraige,kids views on this board while i can understand people are speaking from their own experiences or frustations it doesn't mean all falang women are fat,greedy, don't like sex and nagging bitches!. I see a lot of falang guys in LOS who are fat, beer bellies untidy, loud mouthed and drink all day and pissed almost every night the bar girls love them easy money for them. Now obviusley ALL falang men are not like that. We can't stereotype everything. I don't mean to offend anybody . Cant wait to get to Patts next JANUARY.

[Legend]

gentlemen,
you dont have to apologise in case you offend anyone.
this is a discussion forum, it is good to hear everyones views.
we are not forcing our opinions on others. we are having a dicussion about a topic that is familiar to us all.
i would like to respond to oze.
wait till your past mid thirties, and the cute pretty birds dont give you a second look anymore.
its all single mums with bingo wings and 20 benson and hedges.
or money hunters. "she,s landed on her feet"
and i for one, would not take on someone elses rubbish.(i.e kids)

interesting to hear the man who said the vows in front of everyone, thinks its ok to fuck about.
isnt the point of marriage to be faithfull to your chosen one?
better or worse etc?
im not judging you personaly. you all do it. to me it shows that the marriage thing is bullshit.

and not all falang women are fat and greedy, just 99% of em.

[laptop]

I think the marriage thing is probably bullshit. In my case I probably would'nt have done it so early in life but for the fact there is no other option Visa wise. However in saying that once I start working in September i have 21 days holidays a year. So with having to take time off for other shit this would only leave me with 1 LOS trip a year. So the other 50 weeks would be left chasing the bingo wings. Fuck that.

Since i left LOS i have not even kissed another girl or LB. If I am in Pattaya obviously things are different. How can anyone help themselvs. On my 6 week trip i actually only fucked 2 lb's or girls and i felt like shit after. But fuck it. Its not the end of the world.

But also I am at the stage were Missus Laptop is young and IMo hot. What happens when she gets towards 40 I dont know. Obviously i havent experienced this as i am only 25 and i havent been married.

All i know is its nice to have a companion to share life with. I prefer this than chasing the bingo winged farang girls here. I dont think i could handle 50 weeks a year just waiting for my next Pattaya fix. I need something else in my life. Other people are able to handle it. I need someone for sex, fun, chilling and generally make me happy. My girls does this. But in fairness how could i help myself in Pattaya?

Like I said what the future holds i dont know. I hope I dont break her heart or get even get fucked over by her. Each is a possibility. Maybe i am being very mackiavellian about marriage but I am just trying to be realistic. If i had to live my life just going to the gym, drinking with the lads and just counting the days to los i would go mad.

I totally respect people who dont marry and have no intion to do it. It is selfesh but it is also very brave and a very logical decision. You are in control of everything. But what about when you are older? Retire to los is an option i suppose.

P.S. Cheating on the wife is not ok. But boys will be boys.

[Stuart H]

This is a fascinating thread and I've followed it as opinions have been shared, questioned or challended by members of the forum. It is an important question because at its heart of why all of us follow the forum and return to LOS for more.

Ive only been twice, in February and joined the forum because I knew for sure that my first LB experiences wouldnt be the last. Since I returned home I've asked myself many times why I am so totally obsessed with Lbs after one encounter. On the plane back to the UK I knew that the world I left would look the same, be the same, but I WOULD NEVER BE THE SAME. My attitude to my relationships, my work, my friends weren't the same.

Thaialnd exposed all the flaws, the shortfalls and lies that I was living and accepting as if they were out of my control. What my experiences in LOS showed me was that I have a right to enjoy these beauties, their warmth and affection that they give so freely. (Ah but there's a price, I hear you say!)

Those of us who are doing, or have done the Marriage thing know that you always pay, because you end up living a life that you wouldn't choose, doing things that are not really what you want to do, building a world that exists principally for other people. Western women (in general) get bored not just with the sex in a relationship, but also the affection and physical contact. For me, LOS and the LB scene is a means of re-descovering ME, what I want from the rest of my life, who I want to live it for, where I want to spend it and with who. As other BMs have said, this sounds selfish but for those of us who have been in selfless relationships for too long, this is a chance to experience all those emotions which we didnt expect to feel again.

Whilst in LOS I did things and felt things that I thought were gone for good. Since returning I've changed my sort term and long term plans, my priorities and goals have been turned upside down and I have reasons to live and work again. Thailand will always be there for me, the LB scene is a love affair that wil blossom as I get to know it better and better each time I return. Knowing this changes your outlook fundamentally. You have a reason to be, and even if the world you live in comes crashing down, there's another world out there waiting for you!