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[Phil Lander]

To all the people who think they can have both marriage and ladyboys:get real fellas. One day you'll have to choose.

I now have the problem that not having a Thai wife I can no longer use her as a reason to go to Thailand for Hols. I will just have to say something like "I was married to one for nearly tens years so I like being in Thailand" It has also become very hard at work to not tell people to piss off when they start making comments.

My mum and sister seem to be trying to break me of the obsession that I have in Thailand .
My sister said something about me liking the little Thai Ladies , I replied that I now like the Tall ones (with cocks) I really felt like telling her . Not now but maybe one day I will.

[smilodon03]

I was wondering something, do you guys have no other ambitions in life then getting of with lb, because it comes to me like some of you just go for the money for a trip to thailand. This is not to offend people, and maybe I am oversimplifing it, but so it seems to me, like as if some of you have become verry superficial.

By other ambition I mean, being more than being just an avarage jo, not working for the money but to achive something. Maybye another ambition is to find 'true love'. Sounds maybe verry soft, but if you have no other goals in life than going for a short moment of fun every year, maybe 'you are missing out' (like mentioned earlyer by someones ex) on the other things in life.

Not that I say everyone who posted here is superficial, but I wondered about this aspect.

(sorry for the errors in my english, but it's not my native tongue)

[pog1701]

I was wondering something, do you guys have no other ambitions in life then getting of with lb, because it comes to me like some of you just go for the money for a trip to thailand. This is not to offend people, and maybe I am oversimplifing it, but so it seems to me, like as if some of you have become verry superficial.

By other ambition I mean, being more than being just an avarage jo, not working for the money but to achive something. Maybye another ambition is to find 'true love'. Sounds maybe verry soft, but if you have no other goals in life than going for a short moment of fun every year, maybe 'you are missing out' (like mentioned earlyer by someones ex) on the other things in life.

Not that I say everyone who posted here is superficial, but I wondered about this aspect.

(sorry for the errors in my english, but it's not my native tongue)

Ambition to become CEO of a Fortune 500 company, no thank you. Or what about my ambition to learn another language (I speak 2 maybe 3 at a push), though if I discussed my ambitions other than to get with Tiffany girls I would bore the F**k out of you. Time and place for everything.

[kliome]

Ambition and attitudes towards LOS, LB and relationships are compleetly non-related. I'm not exactly sure what your point is smilodon03, or what you mean(?).

We all have different levels of ambition, people here come from different backgrounds, different career paths, different priorities, morale and ethical values etc etc...

Amition to find 'true love' is not really an ambition at all, and if it was your goal, you'd be a very sad man to travel to LOS for this, it would be a form of suicide. You may as well get 'I am a MUG' tattooed on your forehead, just to speed things up.

[Automorph]

I was wondering something, do you guys have no other ambitions in life then getting of with lb, because it comes to me like some of you just go for the money for a trip to thailand. This is not to offend people, and maybe I am oversimplifing it, but so it seems to me, like as if some of you have become verry superficial.

By other ambition I mean, being more than being just an avarage jo, not working for the money but to achive something. Maybye another ambition is to find 'true love'. Sounds maybe verry soft, but if you have no other goals in life than going for a short moment of fun every year, maybe 'you are missing out' (like mentioned earlyer by someones ex) on the other things in life.

I think you are oversimplifying and making a broad generalization (never good things, in my opinion).

I think if you were to get to know a cross section of the members of this forum, you will find a very broad range of people.

Other ambitions, you say? Such as? Curing cancer (maybe one of our guys is working on it), brokering peace in the middle east (who knows), writing the next great novel (could be), educating the masses (you betcha, we are). Get my point?

There are highly educated, very successful people here (who don't only work jobs to earn money to come to LOS). There are captains of industry, academics, business owners, factory guys, salesmen, physicians, techies, accountants and virtually discipline in between.

Some of us fly airplanes (for fun), climb mountains, sit on board of directors for nonprofits, read to the blind, speak 7 languages, are founders of companies, travel the world (as non sex tourists).

There are guys who are in long term relationships, but have the desire to get something they are lacking at home.

There are guys who have "been there, done that" with conventional relationships, and prefer the more relaxed environment of LOS.

There are guys that do both, do neither and everything in between.

Most here don't pass judgement and are quite accepting.

For me. I've been a "poster child" for ambition for most of my life, and still manage to maintain the appropriate "balance" (for me anyway) between my LOS experiences, and the rest of my life.

Your mileage may vary.

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[rsraleigh]

I agree with the staments above ... Iam in my case speak 5 languages (spanish, english, portugese, french and thai), professional working for a foreign company with a very big salary, lived in 4 diffeent countries in the last 4 years, only 29 yearsold, own 2 houses, travelled/travelling everywhere from Spain to Japan and From Nowray to Ushuaia in Tierra del Fuego in Argentina .... and YES I LIKE LBs and not, is not my only reason to live, but certainly is an important part of it! ...

I guess everybody comes from different backgrounds ....

On the marry / kids thing .... yes... I am not interested at all ... and yes, people that do it and tell me about it every minute .. bored me the hell out of it!

[tarado]

smilodon03 poses a fair question.

And, I will readily admit that chasing LBs in LOS is not as noble a pursuit as building a hospital for orphans in Calcutta or dedicating my life to finding a cure for Lou Gehrig's disease.

I think it is shortsighted to suggest that we pursuers of LB's (if I may include you all of similar bent) have no other ambitions. This is - the last time I checked, a board for discussion of all things LB related, and thus the focus of discussions.

One of the greatest things about this brief holiday on earth (that I call life) is that we can decide what meaning we wish to lend to it. Want to lead the life of a hedonist? Wish to spend your time chanting mantras in an ascetic monastery? Wish to create as many children as possible and spend your life supporting them?

Up to you :-)

Having sampled some other modes of personal expression in life - and found that they did not deliver the fulfillment that was advertised in TV commercials. Buying that stuff didn't catapult my happiness to the next level. I kept waiting to be as happy as those around me working in an office and going to Disneyland 2 weeks a year with the kids. I never happened.

Well, I was fortunate to find something that does make me happy and give me a sense of fulfillment. When that plane touched down on the tarmac of Don Muang airport that virgin trip, I can't explain the excitment that welled up inside me.

Before my time is over on this planet, I will have set foot in many different countries; touched many people (if only briefly) and experienced far more of this incredible world than 95% of the rank and file sheeple out there. If they can be happy buying stuff on TV and taking their cues from everyone else,..good for them. I could never be content that way.

It is probably for the best of society that most people want to fall in love, pump out kids and support the cogs of consumerism. I just don't want to be one of them.

I am counting the days to my next holiday in SE Asia and I would have it no other way!

[Phil Lander]

I think if an outsider was to look at this forum Smilodon could be correct in saying we are superficial , I think Automorph answer has said it best so wont elaborate and only speak for myself.

For me I found the love of my life at 38 who is the only person I have ever wanted to marry . The marriage ended nearly ten years later. We have no children.

I have worked for the same company for the last 15 years and have only managed to move sideways rather than up so I guess my career hopes are over .

I have travelled to about 29 countries but find that Thailand is the only place I constantly think about , and not just for sex.

I follow two Rugby teams by going to all the home games and an occasional away game .

I have another hobby which takes up far more of my time than Thailand ever could .

I live in a nice and affordable house and have money to spare for trips away .

I have plenty of friends (real ones not just on the net).

When I go to the pub by myself at home and go to the toilet or the bar my drink , seat and jacket are all likely to be taken by someone else as theres no bin or Bar maid watching my place like you get in Thailand. AND no twenty year olds wanting to talk to me.

My life is pretty well balanced and think Thailand completes the mix.

[philts]

As per my previous message, I believe that if you review all opinions on this subject there is no doubt most LB lovers are fairly self centred (not selfish) people.

Would like to point out that I include myself in that category.

We think about sexual gratification and taking holidays on our own rather than giving up time for children and families.

Nothing wrong in terms of the way we are, hell, everyone is different but I fail to understand why people knock others they know who are married and don't go to LOS and other cheap sex destinations.

Once again, nothing wrong with us guys liking a dick on a chick but why knock others that don't? You're just like the tourists in Pattaya or Phuket who look down on farang taking an LS - EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT and that's what makes this world a great place.

[BKKtime]

He is right in the fact that we hardly discuss our private lives when it doesn't in one way or another direct to LOS or lb's. So you may get the idea it's all we do. As for me you are right though. I am superficial this way. All I do is travel and think about sex pretty much throughout the entire day. And ladyboys, but not just limited to Thailand, always have my greater interest as it somehow still manages to intrigue me whereas girls are great fun and in the long run better, never have this hot and exciting spark anymore.

Although it's silly to think that at my age I think I will be content for the rest of my life doing this( I just turned 22). I'm now going to live in Thailand for a year to see how it works out and then I plan to move back to Japan to find a nice girl I can marry and have children with. But as for career ambitions, I stopped working a few months ago and I don't plan on starting a business on my own for the heck of it so I think I'm just going to retire until I get really bored of everything(including ladyboys ^^ )

[donnykey]

One of my ambitions is to be Happy and i am really Happy when i am in Thailand...so i guess i have fulfilled one of my ambitions...cheers donnykey

p.s. another ambition is to win on the punt ...am doing that too....life's good !!!

[larrylarry]

I dont know it all doesnt seem that complcated to me. This is a LB forum, so of course that is going to be focus of most of the conversations here. How well rounded or self actualized we are, are great topics but not the common denominator that has brought us together. I mean do you really want to hear about my baseball card collection, or my recent development in chiral chemistry on this forum? As far as marriage, kids, monagomy vs whore mongering across the globe.... society places tremendous presure on us to choose the former. In fact all self indulgent, hedonistic behavior is fround on by most cultures. Thats probably good for society, and good for most people who may not be able to strike a balance. A lot of people need that external constrant. The fact is most people are obsesed by sex, it is our third srongest drive after food and shelter (maslow). The choice of our outlet for that erge, ladyboys, well thats what makes us unique. If we told our friends that we want to fuck young hot girls for the rest of our lives, the response would be who doesnt. Every rock star, movie star and millionire makes the front page with his latest conquest. Then when they get lazy, lonely, or discontent with the hunt they settle down...till the erge sets in again. Of course we all know what happens next..the women leaves with half his stuff. What happens on this forum is typical group behavior, same shit we did in our tree houses when we were nine. Its cool, better here than some stuffy county club with a golf course (and hey who says we cant do both?)
Why Ladyboys vs marrige and kids...no brainer
Why ladyboys vs women ...intersting conversation
Why Thailand....if you have to ask you have never been there

oh here is one more thought on the matter:



its ok you can dance if you want to!!!
Cheers