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[tarado]

smilodon03 poses a fair question.

And, I will readily admit that chasing LBs in LOS is not as noble a pursuit as building a hospital for orphans in Calcutta or dedicating my life to finding a cure for Lou Gehrig's disease.

I think it is shortsighted to suggest that we pursuers of LB's (if I may include you all of similar bent) have no other ambitions. This is - the last time I checked, a board for discussion of all things LB related, and thus the focus of discussions.

One of the greatest things about this brief holiday on earth (that I call life) is that we can decide what meaning we wish to lend to it. Want to lead the life of a hedonist? Wish to spend your time chanting mantras in an ascetic monastery? Wish to create as many children as possible and spend your life supporting them?

Up to you :-)

Having sampled some other modes of personal expression in life - and found that they did not deliver the fulfillment that was advertised in TV commercials. Buying that stuff didn't catapult my happiness to the next level. I kept waiting to be as happy as those around me working in an office and going to Disneyland 2 weeks a year with the kids. I never happened.

Well, I was fortunate to find something that does make me happy and give me a sense of fulfillment. When that plane touched down on the tarmac of Don Muang airport that virgin trip, I can't explain the excitment that welled up inside me.

Before my time is over on this planet, I will have set foot in many different countries; touched many people (if only briefly) and experienced far more of this incredible world than 95% of the rank and file sheeple out there. If they can be happy buying stuff on TV and taking their cues from everyone else,..good for them. I could never be content that way.

It is probably for the best of society that most people want to fall in love, pump out kids and support the cogs of consumerism. I just don't want to be one of them.

I am counting the days to my next holiday in SE Asia and I would have it no other way!

[Phil Lander]

I think if an outsider was to look at this forum Smilodon could be correct in saying we are superficial , I think Automorph answer has said it best so wont elaborate and only speak for myself.

For me I found the love of my life at 38 who is the only person I have ever wanted to marry . The marriage ended nearly ten years later. We have no children.

I have worked for the same company for the last 15 years and have only managed to move sideways rather than up so I guess my career hopes are over .

I have travelled to about 29 countries but find that Thailand is the only place I constantly think about , and not just for sex.

I follow two Rugby teams by going to all the home games and an occasional away game .

I have another hobby which takes up far more of my time than Thailand ever could .

I live in a nice and affordable house and have money to spare for trips away .

I have plenty of friends (real ones not just on the net).

When I go to the pub by myself at home and go to the toilet or the bar my drink , seat and jacket are all likely to be taken by someone else as theres no bin or Bar maid watching my place like you get in Thailand. AND no twenty year olds wanting to talk to me.

My life is pretty well balanced and think Thailand completes the mix.

[philts]

As per my previous message, I believe that if you review all opinions on this subject there is no doubt most LB lovers are fairly self centred (not selfish) people.

Would like to point out that I include myself in that category.

We think about sexual gratification and taking holidays on our own rather than giving up time for children and families.

Nothing wrong in terms of the way we are, hell, everyone is different but I fail to understand why people knock others they know who are married and don't go to LOS and other cheap sex destinations.

Once again, nothing wrong with us guys liking a dick on a chick but why knock others that don't? You're just like the tourists in Pattaya or Phuket who look down on farang taking an LS - EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT and that's what makes this world a great place.

[BKKtime]

He is right in the fact that we hardly discuss our private lives when it doesn't in one way or another direct to LOS or lb's. So you may get the idea it's all we do. As for me you are right though. I am superficial this way. All I do is travel and think about sex pretty much throughout the entire day. And ladyboys, but not just limited to Thailand, always have my greater interest as it somehow still manages to intrigue me whereas girls are great fun and in the long run better, never have this hot and exciting spark anymore.

Although it's silly to think that at my age I think I will be content for the rest of my life doing this( I just turned 22). I'm now going to live in Thailand for a year to see how it works out and then I plan to move back to Japan to find a nice girl I can marry and have children with. But as for career ambitions, I stopped working a few months ago and I don't plan on starting a business on my own for the heck of it so I think I'm just going to retire until I get really bored of everything(including ladyboys ^^ )

[donnykey]

One of my ambitions is to be Happy and i am really Happy when i am in Thailand...so i guess i have fulfilled one of my ambitions...cheers donnykey

p.s. another ambition is to win on the punt ...am doing that too....life's good !!!

[larrylarry]

I dont know it all doesnt seem that complcated to me. This is a LB forum, so of course that is going to be focus of most of the conversations here. How well rounded or self actualized we are, are great topics but not the common denominator that has brought us together. I mean do you really want to hear about my baseball card collection, or my recent development in chiral chemistry on this forum? As far as marriage, kids, monagomy vs whore mongering across the globe.... society places tremendous presure on us to choose the former. In fact all self indulgent, hedonistic behavior is fround on by most cultures. Thats probably good for society, and good for most people who may not be able to strike a balance. A lot of people need that external constrant. The fact is most people are obsesed by sex, it is our third srongest drive after food and shelter (maslow). The choice of our outlet for that erge, ladyboys, well thats what makes us unique. If we told our friends that we want to fuck young hot girls for the rest of our lives, the response would be who doesnt. Every rock star, movie star and millionire makes the front page with his latest conquest. Then when they get lazy, lonely, or discontent with the hunt they settle down...till the erge sets in again. Of course we all know what happens next..the women leaves with half his stuff. What happens on this forum is typical group behavior, same shit we did in our tree houses when we were nine. Its cool, better here than some stuffy county club with a golf course (and hey who says we cant do both?)
Why Ladyboys vs marrige and kids...no brainer
Why ladyboys vs women ...intersting conversation
Why Thailand....if you have to ask you have never been there

oh here is one more thought on the matter:



its ok you can dance if you want to!!!
Cheers

[Automorph]

Yo, Yo, on da video. True 'nuff.

Word!

[Legend]

some good responses.
another argument i like to throw at people who question my life style is this.
what if thailand was only 1 hour away from your home country.?
with a return ticket costing £40.00

would you settle for a fat wife and kids then?

seems to me, the main thing stopping everyone from enjoying the facilities of thailand is the distance and finance involved.
therefore, it could seem self centred if i focus my finances on being used for thailand trips. but only beacause it takes a lot of money to afford a trip.
but what if it was affordable for everyone?

think 90% of uk men would be there every weekend instead of jumping through hoops for a second hand single mum with a lifestyle paid for with credit cards, waiting for some prick to pick up the tab.

with regards to ambition, i am living the life i dreamt of.
i work for myself so i can take holidays when i like.
my focus is self centred in the way that my life comes before anyone elses.
that dosent mean i have a "bad heart".
more that ive got an open mind to whats going on around me and making my own choices to how i want to live. not how im "supposed " to.
but in fairness, some people have an ambition to have kids.
just, im not one of them.

[dixon cox]

Long may my lifestyle continue, I'm divorced with no kids, wonderful.

2 months in LOS in less than 2 weeks from now.

This is the best time of my life.

Well that 2 weeks is now up and I'm leaving my house in about 2 minutes.

2 months of my chosen lifestyle... Here I come

[laptop]

Long may my lifestyle continue, I'm divorced with no kids, wonderful.

2 months in LOS in less than 2 weeks from now.

This is the best time of my life.

Well that 2 weeks is now up and I'm leaving my house in about 2 minutes.

2 months of my chosen lifestyle... Here I come

Enjoy your trip DC mate.

[redrock]

This is a very interesting thread for me and I totally agree with most posts. However one thing that prays on my mind a lot lately is how alienated from "normal" society my hobby has made me. With the exception of a close friend and fellow board members I talk about my passion for LBs to nobody. Also, I find I have less and less interest in socialising with lifelong friends because their lifestyle bores me to tears. When they start talking about their kids or a bigger house or a holiday to Spain my eyes glaze over.
The other side of this is that many people start to wonder what makes me tick (nosey fuckers). They see what I could potentially have; wife, kids, etc, and question why I don't want it.
"He must be gay"
"Maybe he's a pedo"
"He's off his fuckin head"
I know they must think these things. I'm the odd one out in society not them. Everything is geared around getting married and having kids and if your not with the programme what are you with?

I realise I shouldn't give a fuck what others think and the best thing to do would be to shout it from the roof tops. But it grates on me that these pathetic, bland, judgemental bastards will find my lifestyle a great source amusement and ridicule.

To all the people who think they can have both marriage and ladyboys:get real fellas. One day you'll have to choose.

[tarado]

I have had a few people ask me if I was into "little boys over there"?

I usually just laugh it off - as distasteful as their attempt at humour is.

On a few occasions I told people to stop joking about it - that may be what they are into,.. but I am all legal. 18 is young enough.

"because their lifestyle bores me to tears. When they start talking about their kids or a bigger house or a holiday to Spain my eyes glaze over. "

I hear you. My peers tell me about their trip to Disneyland with the kids. I tell them about "Disneyland for adults".