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[laptop]

I think the marriage thing is probably bullshit. In my case I probably would'nt have done it so early in life but for the fact there is no other option Visa wise. However in saying that once I start working in September i have 21 days holidays a year. So with having to take time off for other shit this would only leave me with 1 LOS trip a year. So the other 50 weeks would be left chasing the bingo wings. Fuck that.

Since i left LOS i have not even kissed another girl or LB. If I am in Pattaya obviously things are different. How can anyone help themselvs. On my 6 week trip i actually only fucked 2 lb's or girls and i felt like shit after. But fuck it. Its not the end of the world.

But also I am at the stage were Missus Laptop is young and IMo hot. What happens when she gets towards 40 I dont know. Obviously i havent experienced this as i am only 25 and i havent been married.

All i know is its nice to have a companion to share life with. I prefer this than chasing the bingo winged farang girls here. I dont think i could handle 50 weeks a year just waiting for my next Pattaya fix. I need something else in my life. Other people are able to handle it. I need someone for sex, fun, chilling and generally make me happy. My girls does this. But in fairness how could i help myself in Pattaya?

Like I said what the future holds i dont know. I hope I dont break her heart or get even get fucked over by her. Each is a possibility. Maybe i am being very mackiavellian about marriage but I am just trying to be realistic. If i had to live my life just going to the gym, drinking with the lads and just counting the days to los i would go mad.

I totally respect people who dont marry and have no intion to do it. It is selfesh but it is also very brave and a very logical decision. You are in control of everything. But what about when you are older? Retire to los is an option i suppose.

P.S. Cheating on the wife is not ok. But boys will be boys.

[Stuart H]

This is a fascinating thread and I've followed it as opinions have been shared, questioned or challended by members of the forum. It is an important question because at its heart of why all of us follow the forum and return to LOS for more.

Ive only been twice, in February and joined the forum because I knew for sure that my first LB experiences wouldnt be the last. Since I returned home I've asked myself many times why I am so totally obsessed with Lbs after one encounter. On the plane back to the UK I knew that the world I left would look the same, be the same, but I WOULD NEVER BE THE SAME. My attitude to my relationships, my work, my friends weren't the same.

Thaialnd exposed all the flaws, the shortfalls and lies that I was living and accepting as if they were out of my control. What my experiences in LOS showed me was that I have a right to enjoy these beauties, their warmth and affection that they give so freely. (Ah but there's a price, I hear you say!)

Those of us who are doing, or have done the Marriage thing know that you always pay, because you end up living a life that you wouldn't choose, doing things that are not really what you want to do, building a world that exists principally for other people. Western women (in general) get bored not just with the sex in a relationship, but also the affection and physical contact. For me, LOS and the LB scene is a means of re-descovering ME, what I want from the rest of my life, who I want to live it for, where I want to spend it and with who. As other BMs have said, this sounds selfish but for those of us who have been in selfless relationships for too long, this is a chance to experience all those emotions which we didnt expect to feel again.

Whilst in LOS I did things and felt things that I thought were gone for good. Since returning I've changed my sort term and long term plans, my priorities and goals have been turned upside down and I have reasons to live and work again. Thailand will always be there for me, the LB scene is a love affair that wil blossom as I get to know it better and better each time I return. Knowing this changes your outlook fundamentally. You have a reason to be, and even if the world you live in comes crashing down, there's another world out there waiting for you!

[Phil Lander]

Wheres the ignore button ?


BTW Can anyone explain the exact meaning of "Bingo Wings"? I think I know what you mean but an exact explanation would be good .
I suppose I could always ask on ChavScum

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Found it.

1. bingowings


The extra flabs of skin that large people have under their arms and when they scream out bingo they wave their arms. The "Bingowngs" flap away.

[kliome]

Bingo Wings are the flabby fat that hangs under some people's upper arms. They are like big saggy flaps of fat that most over weight girls and elderly women haven.

A lot of these peoepl also sport Cankles.

Not good...

[pog1701]

Thai GG's or LB's are super sexy. Married with 2.5 kids, mortgage 4*4 no thank you. Though I get the whole lonely angle, I will never marry a fat white Irish bird. I love the Asian build, skin tone and so dark eyes plus they never get as fat as their Irish counterparts (GG or LB).

I guess LB hunting for a while more, when do you think their is a cut off point any way? (I know how long is a that string again)

Guys you have no idea how many fat Irish birds exist marry no way never, never I tell you never.

[pog1701]

Excellent thread, OK not all farang birds are fat and ugly. Though somewhere along the line women thought they could carry on like guys. Drinking and smoking hence the weight, but their bodies can not take the same punishment as male bodies and then they expect you to treat them like royalty and marry them. No thank you.

Of course us guys go bald and have hair growing out of F**King everywhere.

Yes there are some good farang birds, though they do not even look in my direction anymore and the ones that do are fat, so you see I can not marry them.

[Legend]

the topic has took an intersting turn down the fat road, so allow me to elaborate.
when a fat person eats a whole box of biscuits in one sitting, it shows 2 things.
1- they are comfort eating, so therefore unhappy, and maybe slightly depressed.
2- they are greedy by nature.
GREED is the one quality i cant stand in any human.
but with fat people the greed is evident just by looking at the body size.
now your half decent fit sexy women, a few and far between, so can afford to be a bit more choosy about a male partner.
i.e does he have money?
another part of greed, but not evident at first.
the greed shows up when she constantly wants a more shoes, better car, bigger house, more exotic holidays etc........
so, most of us who have experienced this would prefer to keep it simple.
pay, play, leave.

[laptop]

I agree about the greed thing. I think it is one of the most disgusting things is a chick.

But Anthony can I ask you do you miss the companionship of a girlfirend or wife for the other 48 weeks of the year when you are not in thailand? How long can you live such a high % of your year just building up to your next trip?

Or will the ends justify the means and do you plan to live in LOS ful time some time in the future? I dont think i could hang on 25 years until i might have enough cash to retire. Hence marriage.

I am not personally attacking you. It would just be interesting to hear your thoughts.

Cheers,
Laptop

[Legend]

laptop, valid question.
maybe ive had a bad run, but in my eyes, if i was to take on a partner for long term, they have to enhance my life, same as would do to their,s. if they put limits on my life, im off.
got mates who cant do this, cant do that. thats not for me.
i dont do too bad in uk for a bit of rumpy pumpy, but i tend to back away after 2 nights, prefer to be single.
i dont miss companionship as ive got used to living alone.
i guess the bottom line is, some people cannot be on their own. they finish with a girl, and within a week they get another.
i dont NEED a partner, it would be a choice.

[laptop]

Fair answer. I guess that is where we differ. I probably enjoy getting to know a girl and building up a relationship. And i am obviously less comfortable being alone for long periods of time.

In fact even when I do go with lb's or gg's in LOS i tend to stay with them for a few days or return to them again. I have not done short times that many times.

[Legend]

i suppose its similar to when you meet a career women.
they wont let anything get in the way of their career, and some even pay male escorts to fuck them.
i wont let anyone get in the way of enjoying my life.
unless she,s an lb, six pack, good laugh........

[kliome]

I'm with Anthony. I don't want a partner in my life. I love the way my life is now..

All the money I earn is my own, I can do what I want, I never have to answer to anyone. I work freelance too which helps, but if I wake up and want to go to Barcelona for a few days or head back to LOS, or just want to go out with some friends in London, as long is it's within reason I can just go with the flow and do it.

When I go to LOS I can go wild, indulge in my fantasies and inhibitions, I socialise 24/7 and party HARD. I always return home wanting to work and get a few projects going, and I'm lucky in that I do a job I'm passionate about and when I get into something it can be 24/7 for a few weeks or more.

I go out occassionally when I'm home but I enjoy being alone most of this time, and going out with friends or meeting girls when the urge takes me, for the most I like to build it all up for the LOS or other trips and be a bit of a workaholic at home, socialise with other people in my field and get into new work.

I'm happier than most of my mates who are married or in serious relationships, and much much happier than the ones who are single but trying hard to find a partner. Some of my firneds are in a relationship and they are happy, and good for them, but a few who aren't happy think I'm lucky for being able to go away so much, when it has nothing to do with luck, some of them earn as much, if not more money than I do, they just have a partner, kids and /or a home.

Anthony nails it, the problem is a lot of people feel the NEED to be with someone, they just don't feel comfortable being alone. In essense MOST people feel this way and probably don't understand someone who prefers to be single.

I miss having a partner from time to time but it's usually just when I'm feeling bored and/or horny but I think the people I know who are partnered up miss their freedom more.

I know some people like to have a partner and swing etc.. but this just wouldn't do it for me, I can't think of a worse situation for me personally, it's like the worst of both worlds. If I started to feel differently and wanted to have a partner I'd look foward to the exclusivity and emotional attachment of the relationship, but I'm nowhere near wanting that right now. I luvs to party too much.