Saved me a lot of grief and money
Would you tell ?
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, Oct 16 2011 12:47 PM
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#49
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Posted 16 October 2011 - 03:26 PM
I voted YES. A couple of good mates in LOS did it for me, and I then asked to see her email inbox
Saved me a lot of grief and money
Saved me a lot of grief and money
#50
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Posted 16 October 2011 - 03:42 PM
I've had friends in this situation before, and I always try to 'set them straight'.
Nevertheless, in many cases your attempt to assist will fall on deaf ears.
I guess after a while, you give up trying to help as it only ends up straining your otherwise solid friendships.
Sometimes guys simply need to be allowed to make mistakes and learn for themselves, although it can be expensive & distressing.
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Koykaeng
Nevertheless, in many cases your attempt to assist will fall on deaf ears.
I guess after a while, you give up trying to help as it only ends up straining your otherwise solid friendships.
Sometimes guys simply need to be allowed to make mistakes and learn for themselves, although it can be expensive & distressing.
Cheers
Koykaeng
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Posted 16 October 2011 - 03:42 PM
If I considered him a friend I would tell him. I wouldn't push him or keep repeating it, but I'd let him know what I know and leave it at that.
He may not listen, he may even fall out with you but telling him is doing your bit as a friend.
He may not listen, he may even fall out with you but telling him is doing your bit as a friend.
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#52
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Posted 16 October 2011 - 03:47 PM
[...] Sometimes guys simply need to be allowed to make mistakes and learn for themselves, although it can be expensive & distressing.
Nice statement.
Voted yes, I'd have his back. Have a chat with him and let it be.
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Posted 16 October 2011 - 03:58 PM
Yep, tell him.
In one session, give him everything you've got, then don't discuss it again unless he mentions it first.
In one session, give him everything you've got, then don't discuss it again unless he mentions it first.
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Posted 16 October 2011 - 04:05 PM
Nope. None of my damn business. 
I don't mind you coming here
And wasting all my time
Cuz when you're standing oh so near
I kinda lose my mind, yeah
And wasting all my time
Cuz when you're standing oh so near
I kinda lose my mind, yeah
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Posted 16 October 2011 - 05:03 PM
I would tell him in private just the once. But before telling him I would say what I am about to tell you, I hope we can remain friends and I am just saying this for your own good.
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Posted 16 October 2011 - 05:06 PM
If you took the p4p stuff out of the story, you have a mate who has fallen for a bird with a few other blokes on the go.
imagine if that happened in england.
id tell him what ive heard, advise him to not get too carried away, and never mention it again.
imagine if that happened in england.
id tell him what ive heard, advise him to not get too carried away, and never mention it again.
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 02:56 AM
If the it was the other way about and I was the fella about to commit to the girl and sponsor her...
I'd sure fucking appreciate it if one you fine gentlemen had the absolute decency to discreetly let me know...
I'd sure fucking appreciate it if one you fine gentlemen had the absolute decency to discreetly let me know...
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 10:38 AM
it depends, is he immature in matters of the heart, perhaps he needs to learn the hard way but any adult who falls in luv with a women he rented in another country on holiday really isnt a freind to themselves, either way id have a secret laugh or tell him and laugh in secret if he gets angry with you or ignores your advice, myself i would tell him, call it guy code and simple human decency.
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 12:29 PM
I tell them especially if sponsors are involved, but in my experience most don't want to listen.
I guess you have to be pretty deluded to fall for P4P so logic does not prevail.
Having said that after an initial year of adjustments and getting them out of bar culture, most marriages work out OK from my experiences with mates.
Rough few years of adjustment to reality for both parties
I guess you have to be pretty deluded to fall for P4P so logic does not prevail.
Having said that after an initial year of adjustments and getting them out of bar culture, most marriages work out OK from my experiences with mates.
Rough few years of adjustment to reality for both parties
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Posted 17 October 2011 - 03:21 PM
To my mind it would depend on how well you know the person and also how sure you are of the facts. If its as you describe and its a close mate, you should alert him to the rumours. Its then his choice what he does with the information. If it was someone I knew and well, I would not hesitate to tell him but choice of wording is going to the key to how well you carry it off.
Cheers
Mardhi
Cheers
Mardhi
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