167 replies to this topic

[onetruesaxon]

I would tell him in private just the once. But before telling him I would say what I am about to tell you, I hope we can remain friends and I am just saying this for your own good.

[Legend]

If you took the p4p stuff out of the story, you have a mate who has fallen for a bird with a few other blokes on the go.
imagine if that happened in england.

id tell him what ive heard, advise him to not get too carried away, and never mention it again.

[petesie]

If the it was the other way about and I was the fella about to commit to the girl and sponsor her...

I'd sure fucking appreciate it if one you fine gentlemen had the absolute decency to discreetly let me know...

[boomdraw]

it depends, is he immature in matters of the heart, perhaps he needs to learn the hard way but any adult who falls in luv with a women he rented in another country on holiday really isnt a freind to themselves, either way id have a secret laugh or tell him and laugh in secret if he gets angry with you or ignores your advice, myself i would tell him, call it guy code and simple human decency.

[strobriand]

I tell them especially if sponsors are involved, but in my experience most don't want to listen.

I guess you have to be pretty deluded to fall for P4P so logic does not prevail.

Having said that after an initial year of adjustments and getting them out of bar culture, most marriages work out OK from my experiences with mates.

Rough few years of adjustment to reality for both parties

[mardhi]

To my mind it would depend on how well you know the person and also how sure you are of the facts. If its as you describe and its a close mate, you should alert him to the rumours. Its then his choice what he does with the information. If it was someone I knew and well, I would not hesitate to tell him but choice of wording is going to the key to how well you carry it off.

Cheers
Mardhi

[thailover57]

Loved Hoot's reply and pun. I think I'd tell him that this a different culture and he should make sure there are no others before he commits. From that point, it's up to him. If he confronts her and mentions you, then you may stand for some damage. No thanks.

[redrock]

Petsie nailed it for me. If I was the one getting stiffed I'd appreciate the info. But if I didn't know how the guy was gonna react or I thought he was too far gone...I'd leave it.

[petesie]

Fucking "Petsie" again...



If you spared my feelings and let me go down my chosen path to wrack & ruin I certainly wouldn't thank you for it once the smelly lump hit the fan.

One advantage of this forum is through the experience of many few can learn great lessons on LoS...fast!

[Legend]

PM sent.

[petesie]

A noble thought indeed TJ but perhaps the personal private touch may have been better in the longer term, if he realises that this is his situation we're discussing he may take it personally...

I hope this is not the case as it highlights to us all the many personal pitfalls a holiday in LoS may entail.

On the other hand...I don't entirely blame the LB in question as her time in the limelight is short and she has to gather what she can while she can, who knows, he may indeed be the one and cupids arrow has struck...

[Ivor Biggun]

You can tell them but they NEVER listen