Hope you didn't get too offended by the troll comment. I think @xyzzy was mixing humor with his suspicion. We do get a number of trolls in here who post questions with obvious answers.Good Morning
Many thanks for all the advice given here
Firstly i'm no troll !!!
I joined the group for advice as many of you have more experience & knoledge of the LBs in Pattaya
This is also NO Sick Buffalo story..it is the truth i have no reason to lie and waste everybody's time..
i am no fool and my feet are firmly on the ground.. i have no intention of parting with any money with regard to sending it to Thailand
Maybe i was foolish giving her my mail address but she wanted to keep in touch.. that's ok with me..and i'm sure if she gets bored with it the contact will fade away.
As for next year well if she is still around that's fine..and if not that's ok too
Nobody is tugging at my heart strings..not in the UK or in Thailand..
So Once again many thanks for all your replies
Just for the record my name is Martyn i'm 59 and from Leeds UK (I'M NO TROLL) thank you
I got the impression that you answered your own question in your OP. You even mentioned your own alarm bells going off.
They are going off for a good reason, don't ignore them.
Even relationships that have the advantage of both people being in the same age range, same culture, same values, and the same economic class are challenging.
A 25 year-old LB from Pattaya and a 59 year-old male from Leeds have a lot of barriers to overcome.
You know that, you don't need to ask us that, right?
Hence, @xyzzy's joke about you being a troll, at least that is my hunch. Don't take it personally.
Another hunch of mine, you probably came here to just talk, and get it off your chest because you don't have anyone in your real life that you want to talk to about this.
I can completely understand that, so I hope we didn't piss you off with being blunt. It wasn't my intention to ridicule you or make you feel dumb.
My connection to Thailand started with a GG 12 years my junior that had a factory job in Chonburi.
I had too many issues going on with me to be a good boyfriend, let alone a husband. I pushed her away, and she was a wonderful person: sweet, charming, beautiful, and intelligent.
When I met her family, it scared the hell out of me.
The knowledge that if I married her, I would have a certain level of obligation to them was too much for me. I think I was right to let her go.
Now, back to your situation. I happen to think that a 34 year age difference is something to be concerned about. Sure, you can walk hand-in-hand with her and no one will bat an eye in Pattaya (except for Westerners).
You can have fun and share some good times; however, in the long haul you are very likely to get bored with each other. A 25 year-old is interested in different things than a 59 year-old. It can be overcome, but it is a potential source of conflict.
Add in the cross cultural sources of conflict and misunderstanding and that is two big barriers to harmony in a relationship.
We haven't even got to the risks associated with a sex worker, and the challenges that a transgender faces in life and society.
I'm not saying it is impossible. I am saying it will take a tremendous amount of understanding, tolerance, and patience on your part.
There is a very big chance that you will feel like you are being used and under appreciated, even if she isn't running a con on you, chances are you will feel used and abused at some point.
That's just my take on getting too involved with a Thai LB 34 years your junior.
