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[Thailand-junkie]

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[batman4ever]

Right folks,
If you had a mate who is head over heels in love with a p4p worker who you have been told that she has sponsors already and can only see him been lined up for been number 5 would you risk your friendship by telling him what youve heard or would you just say keep your eyes open and dont make any silly changes in your day to day life or visits to Los. or would you keep shut and hope he realises and when it happens hope he isnt mad at you for not telling him in the first place ?

if a close mate...i would tell him in a nice way just make sure he dont tell his girl where he got the info....

close mates are few.... P4P supply is endless

[farangbah]

It's a tough call. In my experience, meddling in others' affairs of the heart never pays off. Then add to the mix the cross-cultural p4p element.

If the guy's new to the scene he may need some guidance. But at some point a man has to stand on his own feet and learn to read the writing on the wall.

I think I know what you're talking about, and I voted "no".

[Nick Bullseye]

I would tell him in any case.

[Hoot]

Every situation is different, but theoretically speaking - hell yeah I'd tell him. What he does with the information is up to him, but at least I warned him. That's not to say I'd want to be meddling in his love life. He's an adult and can make his own decisions...I'd just be making sure he has all the information.

If my friend was going to buy a used car and I knew the current owner had just blown the tranny (inappropriate pun intended) - would I tell him, or just let him take it out for a test drive and find out for himself?

[tourist]

I would tell him in any case.

same same ....

It's surely not simple to handle, but I think all those ones who burned themselves before and still feel dissapointed by a previous an LTR ( or so considered..) with LB, would tend to give some "wise" advise opposite to be silent and look at their friend's agony to overtake sooner or later..

[TTChang]

I voted YES. A couple of good mates in LOS did it for me, and I then asked to see her email inbox

Saved me a lot of grief and money

[koykaeng]

I've had friends in this situation before, and I always try to 'set them straight'.

Nevertheless, in many cases your attempt to assist will fall on deaf ears.

I guess after a while, you give up trying to help as it only ends up straining your otherwise solid friendships.

Sometimes guys simply need to be allowed to make mistakes and learn for themselves, although it can be expensive & distressing.

Cheers
Koykaeng

[kliome]

If I considered him a friend I would tell him. I wouldn't push him or keep repeating it, but I'd let him know what I know and leave it at that.

He may not listen, he may even fall out with you but telling him is doing your bit as a friend.

[CL]

[...] Sometimes guys simply need to be allowed to make mistakes and learn for themselves, although it can be expensive & distressing.

Nice statement.

Voted yes, I'd have his back. Have a chat with him and let it be.

[dixon cox]

Yep, tell him.

In one session, give him everything you've got, then don't discuss it again unless he mentions it first.

[slappy111]

Nope. None of my damn business.