Relationships with lb
#1
Posted 09 September 2005 - 07:48 PM
I think it will be hard to establish a ltr with a ladyboy from a bar since she must constantly see her clients, however at the same time they must like anyone else at some time want to have a ltr. So how do you balance this? Ofcourse it all depends on the individual, but generally speaking what are the expectations you both have of the relationship? 6, 12 months? Anyone with a longer experience? I would be interested to find out since I love lb so much id love to have one that is like a 'soul mate' or something like that? Maybe not that extreme but something deeper than just a sexual relationship..
#2
Posted 09 September 2005 - 09:34 PM
So you got to be ready for this.
From friends experience of Thai girls' they tend to tell lies beacuse of this "face" thing. They, partly because of religion, avoid confrontation and rather tell a lie. I believe this is true of Thai LBs.
Also be aware that if you take a Thai or Indonesian chances are, you also end up supporting their family which sometimes are a bunch of good for nothings. On average, I'm told, relationships with LBs tend not to last, usually one or two years at most.
Having said all that, you may come across one which isn't any of the above. I also have an LB friend in Singapore that is happily married.
Best of luck anyway.
#3 Guest_Pat Tire_*
Posted 09 September 2005 - 11:01 PM
I would suggest that a long term relationship with a p4p working girl has to de difficult, then if you combine that with long distance and throw in to the equation the volatile combustable nature of your average ladyboy! Well quite frankly, it has to be a recipe for disaster or should i say broken heart.
It is all very well us guys dispensing advice, sometimes in life with emotional issues like this, you need to go with your gut feeling and see how the story unfolds :wink:
Good Luck & Best Wishes.
#4
Posted 10 September 2005 - 05:01 PM
#5
Posted 10 September 2005 - 10:25 PM
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#6
Posted 10 September 2005 - 10:54 PM
P.S. The good thing in having LB GF,is that you have a partner for Playstation games...
#7
Posted 12 September 2005 - 12:29 PM
Firstly, most concern LB's that work in bars. Personally I think anyone who has a relationship with someone that works in a bar and expects it to last is fooling themselves, 'you can take the girl (LB) out of the bar but you cant take the bar out of the girl'.
Secondly most post concern LB's from BKK or farang/tourist orientated places. Myself I have been living outside of BKK and without a doubt prefer the LB's here and there are quiet a few LB friends that would like to have farang boyfriends but their lack of english and location that is not tourist friendly. I am in fact one of only a few farangs in the district.
Finally my relationship with my LB girlfriend. We have Bee together for 3 years now and yes we have our ups and downs. There was the initial jelousy thing but time and trust has sorted that. She works nights as a hello girl which I dont mind at all and I know for a fact that she has never played up on me as some of her bitch friends would tell me in a minute if it meant a chance of splitting us up. She is for the most part sweet and kind and does not have a mean bone in her body. The only thing that shits me is when she gets pissed and then she is pathetic. Also she does not mix well with large groups of farangs, why I dont know but when we are with close farang friends she is fine. Anyway thats my two bob.....
#8
Posted 12 September 2005 - 02:24 PM
I have now around three year’s relationship. One year in Bangkok the two years in Switzerland. I can just say it works well.
I can say she is great soul mate. Very passionate, sometimes she loves too much.
There is still some typical Lb stuff like mood swing but with the jealousy is going much better.
From my experiences I can summarize:
-They are some non-bar ladyboys in Bangkok with decent jobs, which learn take responsibility for they own live and own finances. I think most of them are dreaming about true love.
I know before around five Thai-Chinese LB. They seem for me much more compatible with western culture. Living outside from Thailand is also possible for them.
If a relationship is going boring with the time is in your hand. If it’s going much deeper then the sex think you can keep it very long time.
One think which scares my LB but also all LB. What happens when they going older. The hormone works not so well…..they look not so beauty.
Finally I can say its worth to try. You can get something from them which you cannot buy for any money in the world from a bar-LB.
Khuntibi
#9
Posted 05 January 2006 - 11:03 PM
So she (or he) looks great, has a kind heart, is good in bed, cooks well etc etc. But then what? What exactly are you going to talk about, current affairs, politics, business, sport, jokes (they won't get them unless they're designed for retards), life, your religion, computers, books and novels, train spotting and almost any other topic that you or I could talk about for hours.
I've had some great times with the girls/lb of thailand but after say 3-4 months I could not take it anymore and had to let them all go. You see chances are you were attracted to them by their face, body, sex etc. But after a time that well runs very dry and you need more out of a relationship.
This problem is also apparent in the West were very pretty girls are often extremly dull if you take away their faces and bodies.
There is also a problem with having a lb girlfriend in thailand and mixing with other farangs. Whatever you say it's not normal and 80% of them (farangs) will snigger behind your back and anyone doing this cannot be regarded as a friend. So your friends will likely be the lb's friends and bang, you're stuck in the same situation about what to talk about again.
My advice, is get a wife/girlfriend you can talk to about anything, someone who shares your type of interests and then get a lb girlfriend as a mistress, that way you can keep some excitement going, of course you're going have to share the lb but chances are you'd be sharing the lb anyway whether you know about it or not.
Bottom line, the sex part is easy, getting a good looking gal is easy but just what are you going to talk about....................
#10
Posted 06 January 2006 - 01:46 AM
Bottom line, the sex part is easy, getting a good looking gal is easy but just what are you going to talk about....................
So true ...
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#11
Posted 06 January 2006 - 11:04 AM
Perhaps about Nitsche,Kant or Freud or play a game of chess....
Dieter
#12
Posted 17 January 2006 - 12:00 PM
As long as you don't put up with any bullshit from your lb friend. -Some of them are inveterate liars and total drama-queens, and once they've told you bullshit to con money or things, they'll never respect you again. :?
I would imagine living with, or even marrying an lb partner would be a total fucking disaster, to be honest.
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