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[tarado]

I came across an article on Puer Aeternus or Peter Pan Syndrome (for those of you into psychology)

For my own pursuit and enjoyment of ladyboys, part of the enjoyment is the lack of emotional entanglements with the GG and chance to enjoy the pleasures into perpetuity - as long as I avoid the clutches of the marriage to a GG.

Am I immature for wanting my life to remain without the responsibilities and burdens of conventional life of kids and marriage?

I see myself as intelligent enough to avoid a life of financial servitude to a wife and kids and sexual frustration.

from Wikipedia:
"Puer Aeternus is Latin for eternal boy. In Jungian analytical psychology, examples of the puer archetype include the child, young boy or adolescent. The term can also be applicable to females in which case the Latin term is puella aeterna.

Analytical psychologists suggest that some of the signs of the expression of the puer archetype in a person's life can include immaturity, narcissism, and a desire to escape into fantasy or idealism in preference to remaining with the reality of a situation."

what about you? is chasing ladyboys a lifestyle or a phase?

[freebirdabc]

If my married mates knew what they're missing out on they'd be boarding planes en masse for Pattaya waving their dicks in one hand and their credit cards in the other.

If you're serious about this, I actually feel sorry for you.

[Legend]

good topic. hopefully with a few good answers from diferent angles.

i find myself avoiding getting involved with women, as in my eyes the aggro dos,nt balance with the good stuff.
people ask me, "how can you go to thailand so often".
i reply
"because i havnt got a fat wife, 2 kids and a 4x4. my money is my own".
usually followed by "id love to go to thailand.....but im married".
so, i constantly wiegh up, who is doing the "right " thing.
in my eyes , i am.
i wouldnt say it was imature, more mature really, to go in the direction of my dreams, and live the live I have imagined.

i see daily reminders of what i dont want, and thats the pushchairs, the school run, the weekly shop, the frumpy bodys that women end up with, ("but ive had kids"), the noise.........
avoiding servitude.....damn right.

lifestyle or phase?
wont know until someone gives me a better offer.
cant see it, so probably lifestyle for me.

lack of entanglement? probably right.
i have enough bills to pay, i dont need someone elses aggro and parking tickets..

there are a lot of people who would like to do what we do.

[Phil Lander]

I'm not sure if the P4P thing is just a phase or just a substitute for me as I was hardly getting any sex at home and was missing out on the normal things in life a marriage involves . I'm not sure I will be pursuing LB's with the same reckless abandon which I displayed on my last trip or whether I will just do the GFE thing with a GG.

I think I'd better start a new thread rather than hijack this thread with my new status.

[MDS]

Interesting and very thought provoking indeed.
Very interested to see what other people post here.

"Puer Aeternus" sounds like a good idea for a Tattoo I think.

Tarado your not alone with the Peter Pan Syndrome, I think it is contageous though....

Eric1966 nice post the way you summed it up about your friends, a few of them are probably spending there cc else where though and I am sure more than one of them is most probably Gay and that some of there Wife's are probably cheating on them too.

freebirdabc WTF is your problem? We all come on here for the same purpose leave the trash talking for something like MySpace.

Myself I have never been to Thailand, planning my first trip though. Have been with Ladyboys of various varietys before. I am also not Married, age 30 have very mixed experience with the Female Race and the Third Sex as well. Want Kids one day, but they have to wait until I find the right Female or Females too have Kids with and have the money to make it work the way I want.

Came to the conclusion the other day that I would probably cheat on any Wife at least once and the odds of being in a decent Swinging relationship are pretty slim from what I have been told.

LB chasing for some is a phase and others it is just a way of life.

Long live Ladyboys for many years to Cum.....

[matchman]

If my married mates knew what they're missing out on they'd be boarding planes en masse for Pattaya waving their dicks in one hand and their credit cards in the other.

If you're serious about this, I actually feel sorry for you.

If you're serious about this reply, I actually feel very sorry for you!

Interesting topic, I think sometimes its six of one and half a dozen of the other. One side I can have the comfort of family and the pleasure of kids and on the other I can have the freedom to choose what and when I want things. I prefer the freedom at the moment but who knows what offers might come along tomorrow

[Rossco]

Freebird change your name to "Stuffed Turkey"!

Most flights to Pattaya (sorry via BKK) are full of single guys. Why?

Because they can visit here and fulfill their fantasy. Marriage in the West is the most one sided contract ever created. I speak from experience and a marriage costs a fortune - before, during and after.

The thing I like most about Thailand is the "honesty" - you pay, you play and you smile. Marriage - you pay, you sway and you pay.

This forum is about people who actually "like" LB's and Thailand - if you do not find something more to your taste, rather than judging all of us, there are many other sites to browse.

[Legend]

an interesting topic just as heather mills got her dough from paul mcCartney.
a qoute from todays SUN. (i am a builder).

"she emerged from court having secured a divorce deal worth £700 for every hour she was married to sir paul mccartney.
if she,d got what she wanted-£125 million- it would have been £3500 an hour.
either way, it would have cost him less if he,d simply secured her services when she worked as, to put it kindly, and escort girl."

enough said.

she totally epitomises everything i dislike in women, pure greed and out for money using the back door. she is an extreme example of what we are up against by getting married, but its not a rare story.

she definately landed on her foot.

[hondawave]

an interesting topic just as heather mills got her dough from paul mcCartney.
a qoute from todays SUN. (i am a builder).

"she emerged from court having secured a divorce deal worth £700 for every hour she was married to sir paul mccartney.
if she,d got what she wanted-£125 million- it would have been £3500 an hour.
either way, it would have cost him less if he,d simply secured her services when she worked as, to put it kindly, and escort girl."

enough said.

she totally epitomises everything i dislike in women, pure greed and out for money using the back door. she is an extreme example of what we are up against by getting married, but its not a rare story.

she definately landed on her foot.

agree totaly!! is she now "leaning" towards the bank!! f#ck thats alot of money for doing nothing.!!oh sorry, she was married what, 3-4 years?what did she do to bring in money in those 3-4 years.lawyers :evil: michael-chopper

[tarado]

looks like this topic struck a chord.

To expand on my thoughts - I too used to believe the only option out there for a red blooded male with a healthy appetite for sex was to find the best looking girl you can - stay with her until it all goes to crap,..recover and go back it until you meet "the one".

I spent 9 years (common law - no kids) with a very attractive and positive woman. However, by the end, my sexual interest in her had completely disappeared. I was sexually frustrated, bored yet felt there were few options. Every couple of months I sought the services of a prostitute to relieve my boredom.

At least I had the disposable income to visit an escort - doubtless If I had a house full of kids, the money would have allocated to the orthodontist or the multitude of costs associated with raising kids. In addition, I don`t feel the surge of happiness that some experience with kids. I see it as a burden frankly.

2005 - After a difficult couple of years financially and personally, I decided to reward myself with a trip to TRhailand and Philippines. And I had an awakening.

Revealed to me was that I did not need to gain the approval of the local, overweight females my age. There was another game in town, - that being working for the future reward to holidays in Asia, more sex than I could handle (in my youth the supply never exceeded the demand) andf visits to exotic new lands.



Since then I see no end in sight. Working each day for the goal of returning to Nana Plaza, Angeles City and the white sand beaches with sexually eager 21 year old honey gets me out of ebd and at it. The prospect of working each day to pay bills and make other people happy - my sex life a memory - fills me with dread.

I would liek to say that at 40 years of age - only ONE of of all of the guys I know who are married wi children is happy. The remainder are chronically time deprived, fat, and sexually dead. they talk about `getting lucky`with their wives. You have got to be kidding!

I also used to believe that at some point in your life that it was all over and you had to settle down and live out the remainder of your days in a comfortable, innocuous stupor. being pleasant and sexually inert.

I have thrown out that belief. Now, there is no limit to the countries I can visit and the pleasures that can be sampled. And, vaguely in the back of my mind, is the possibility that in another 20 years - I may buy a small house in Pi or Thailand and have a sweet, simple wife who will make my coffee in the morning and provide that companionship.

At 40,..there is no hurry.