Jump to content


Photo

Need advice plz


  • Please log in to reply
6 replies to this topic

#1 patrickfitsmichael

patrickfitsmichael
  • Members
  • 94 posts

Posted 11 May 2019 - 02:40 PM

Ok up to about my 20th LB experience so not a total newbie but neither well experienced.

Q1. Starting to try being a bottom. Over the last 3 encounters LB has given a prostate massage which  got me going and turned into a "{bottom try" for sake of a better phrase.

Now last session today she was fingering my arse pretty hard to begin with but when it came to enter my with her cock it was very painful.

Yes I know its all about relaxing but is there anything I can do to help me relax or make the sphincter more relaxed. So maybe just need to take it slower more lub and maybe just give it more time to relax????

If it relaxes how long does it stay relaxed as when she was fingering my arse it wasn't hurting that much. Obviously size of her cock comes into it. Any positions better than others????

 

2nd question - Had an anal fissure once - not good - yes like pooing glass - now when I go to the toilet I get occasional bleeding. Obviously this is not good for bottom activities- any ideas here???

 

Thanks for advice - just trying to learn

 

PFM



#2 playboyninja

playboyninja
  • Members
  • 28 posts

Posted 12 May 2019 - 03:11 AM

As for question 1: first make sure your ass is cleaned out, use lots of lube and have her lie down and sit on her cock while pushing out with your ass. When I first started this was the least painful way. After this would probably be doggie then lying on your back but it does depend on the ladyboy too. Some will be nice and slow and some won't. Be sure to communicate and have her enter you and then hold steady for a little bit before she begins thrusting.

Q2: don't know how to help you sorry



#3 parttimer

parttimer
  • Members
  • 72 posts

Posted 20 May 2019 - 10:52 AM

Re question 2 go see a doctor now.

#4 malibu515

malibu515
  • Members
  • 185 posts

Posted 29 May 2019 - 09:14 PM

First you must be checked out by a doctor including rectal exam and colonoscopy.  If you have a fissure or tear in your rectum, it can lead to infection or even cancer if untreated.

Once you are medically cleared, here is a reasonable way to have pain free anal sex.

1)  Give yourself an enema. Being clean is essential  Your partner can help you with this and is a good introduction to intimacy.

2)   A patient ,willing partner with a small penis to start is best.  Dont start with a big penised partner, please ! Explain that you need to proceed very slowly.   There is nothing wrong in telling her you are new and a bit afraid, If she won't acomodate you, just take her to lunch, but be nice !

3)   After obtaining xylocaine topical anaesthetic liquid from the pharmacy, apply a small amount to the external and internal tissues

      of the anus. to slightly numb the tissues to allow insertions.

4)   Have small , medium and large butt plugs available.   Have your partner insert the small butt plug with plenty of anal lube slowly, with a twisting, gentle in and out motion

       (anal lube is available in most adult book stores as well as butt plugs and even benzocaine numbing gel )

5)  Have your partner experiment with a heavily lubed finger or two. Start with the smallest pinky. 

6)    Now its finally time for your first penile rectal insertion. It is best to start with the doggy position with your head down on a pillow and your ass in the air with your knees tucked close to your body

7)   With your partner behind you with sporting a heavily lubed condom, take slow deep breaths as the penis is inserted slowly into your rectum.  If there is discomfort, have her withdraw a little , and try again.  Slowly pumping deeper and deeper is the best approach to get used to the fullness of a penis in your rectum

8)   Once the penis is buried to the balls, have her hold there for a short time. Then slow deep pumping will open your anus even 

     more.

9)   The rectum can not easily handle hard fast pumping, so try slow deep pumping.

10)   Next, with her sitting up against the bed post, sit down on her penis facing away from her, again with slow deep pumping.

11)   Finally, lie on your back with your partner facing you, and insert her penis facing you. This allows for kissing and seeing

        your partner.

12)    If she can, have her cum deep inside you of course with the condom on.  Many can't come in the condom as they

          require hand stimulation.

Alternative

     Once you have learned the niceteze  of being  topped, you can experiment with larger, more agressive shemales.  Another advantage to learning how to take a penis deep and hard, it to have a session with  two or three shemales.

        Dressing up in cross dresser clothes will also get you in the right frame of mind with your prospective partners.

Hope this has helped.


  • rxpharm likes this

#5 P&G

P&G
  • Members
  • 298 posts

Posted 31 May 2019 - 04:52 AM

First you must be checked out by a doctor including rectal exam and colonoscopy.  If you have a fissure or tear in your rectum, it can lead to infection or even cancer if untreated.

Once you are medically cleared, here is a reasonable way to have pain free anal sex.

 

...

 

 

 

3)   After obtaining xylocaine topical anaesthetic liquid from the pharmacy, apply a small amount to the external and internal tissues

      of the anus. to slightly numb the tissues to allow insertions.

 

 

 

I think the most important point is to be checked out by a doctor  for his anal fissure. I am not as pessimistic that it could lead to a cancer but only a specialist (proctologist or gastroenterologist) could seriously evaluate the risk. Thanks Heaven, the main risk is pain but only a doctor can say. 

 

I would also suggest him to find a forum of gay people in the area where he lives. Maybe they could advise him of a specialist who knows about anal pleasures in the area where he lives. 

 

Regarding xylocaine, I found out it can be used only by doctors for surgery in my country. Not everybody can enter a pharmacy and ask for xylocaine or even lidocaine ointment for his own consumption. I am curious to know if this is possible in Thailand. 



#6 malibu515

malibu515
  • Members
  • 185 posts

Posted 31 May 2019 - 09:26 AM

That's a good question.  Is viscous xylocaine obtainable without a prescription ?  Best to find out how to say it in Thai then go to a pharmacy.  I know that Bezocaine gel is available along with anal lube at adult book stores.  Benzocaine is as numbing as Xylocaine, but its better than nothing.

 

P.S.  Don't use Ben Gay  for this purpose !



#7 P&G

P&G
  • Members
  • 298 posts

Posted 01 June 2019 - 04:50 AM

I found out today that lidocaine is included in "titanoreine" that is the ointment prescribed for anal fissures. (2%). For xylocaine or higher level of drug, I think the precription is restricted to doctors. 

Watever the answer is,  IMHO the most important for the OP is to find a specialist and better find a specialist with experience in Bottom guys. 






0 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users

Smooci