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[starshiptrooper]

Are some of us living a lie?I am just wondering how many of us are living double lives?
I am certainly living a double life.Girlfriend and son at home and an exciting life in Thailand.Its an extra excitement in my life.What are our excuses so we can lead this life?I am often supposed to be on a fishing vacation or on a walking holiday.But one glance at my passport and I am f##ked.

[sev7en]

Hehe, is that a retorical question?

[MDS]

You need dual citizenship so you have a second passport

I am Single but living a lie in someway to Friends and Family I guess

[Brit]

It's a good question...

I've got a very open mind but understanding that others do not... i follow the following principles

To my friends - if my friends cannot accept my lifestyle then they are not my friends. I do not flaunt it - as i would not flaunt if i were having casual sex with a bevie of beauties (therefore would only introduce someone of meaning). I think it is about how you conduct yourself rather than your private sexual behaviour.

To my family - I'm not of the habit of discussing my sexual conquests to my brother/sister or parents. So feel no need to 'declare' my preferences.

To my work - my social life is my own business.

I am not hiding - I am not living a double life.

I am not ashamed of my behaviour - as i live my life with respect to others and I do try to be as charitable as i can.

And, quite importantly - i am not religious - and I have not been brought up to feel religious or social guilt about anything. I think religion has a major problem with LB's (even in Buddhist religious monks think an LB is paying back a sin from a previous life - which I think demeans the core values of Buddhism)

I think of LB's in the same way as GG's.
And treat them no differently.

[Drift Spunk]

Are you really a star ship trooper?

[norwchin]

My 2 cents worth:

I have told my wife about my interest in LBs, and she accepts it. I tell her about 10-20%, but she prefers me going with LBs instead of GGs. I also find that this makes my sexlife with my wife better. Might be honesty, and the "strap-on factor"

I have told my friends I prefer to drink with LBs in Crazy Horse, because they are more fun to be with than the standard GGs in the bars here in Singapore. This because of attitude, sense of humour etc. Even had a mate admitting to have a better night in CH than on the lower floors. Personally I prefer CH to Club Romeo, as there you get litterally attacked when you come in, and the percentage of post ops is much higher.

Work: forget it, I'm in a macho bussiness enviroment.

I think that puts me in the half lie league

[Brit]

My 2 cents worth:

I have told my wife about my interest in LBs, and she accepts it. I tell her about 10-20%, but she prefers me going with LBs instead of GGs. I also find that this makes my sexlife with my wife better. Might be honesty, and the "strap-on factor"

I have told my friends I prefer to drink with LBs in Crazy Horse, because they are more fun to be with than the standard GGs in the bars here in Singapore. This because of attitude, sense of humour etc. Even had a mate admitting to have a better night in CH than on the lower floors. Personally I prefer CH to Club Romeo, as there you get litterally attacked when you come in, and the percentage of post ops is much higher.

Work: forget it, I'm in a macho bussiness enviroment.

I think that puts me in the half lie league

My opinion is there's a big difference between "non-disclosure" ..and a lie.
It's your right not to disclose as a matter of privacy (perhaps with the exception of matrimonial vows)

BTW - love Crazy Horse in Orchard Towers in Singapore .... haven't tried Club Romeo. Only thing is Singapore LB's are just Thai LB visitors charging USA rates plus trying to recoup their airfare in a single night - - ooooh.... damn expensive night.

[norwchin]

Yeah, your'e right about the prices, but living here, what choice do you have? If you get some "regulars" the price goes down, and anyway, compared to the worldwide rate of GGs, its about the same. Compared to LOS it is expensive of course. Romeo is a PIA really, you go in and you hear a stampede coming towards you. 15 LBs around you and they tell you to choose one. After that they expect you to go along with Ladydrinks at 20 S$ tilll you find the one you fancy. This is also a LB only place, so if you are out with friends, Crazy Horse is a better call of port, as it is 50/50.

[norwchin]

Anyway, there are probly BMs who know more about the scene in Singapore than me, I have only been here for 4 months after spending 5 years in Dubai, and the LB scene is pretty meagre there.......

[JaiDee]

Of course

I'd suspect most people are in one way or another.

[Newdude]

I'm probably in a different situation than most guys here in that I have a US Transwoman as my girl-friend, and we will be moving in with eachother in a few months. Everyone who is close to me knows - parents brother, friends, and a few co-workers who I socialize with. My girl is 100% open and honest with her status, so I really either had to accept that and me just as honest or move on.

[sev7en]

My opinion is there's a big difference between "non-disclosure" ..and a lie.

The thai morals. Not tell the truth is not a lie, according to them.. Can´t stand it.