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[surfcat69]

I have recently went to LOS, had a wonderful trip and met a LB. It started out with one night and then it led to her traveling with me for several weeks. We have a great connection. Of course I payed for most of the trip but she sometimes payed for things and did not ask for anything when we got back, but I wanted to help her out so I did. I stayed with her at her place for a few days before returning back to the states.

I understand she needs to work, but of course it now bothers me a little. I know I would have never met her if she did not work at the bar. This is a new experience for me to meet a working girl and fall for them. She said she wants to visit me in 2 months, I will for sure come back to visit her as I have business in Thailand and travel there several times a year. I really want to have a relationship with her, but now can't stand to think of her working 7 days a week at the bar. Any advice on how to make this relationship work? Thanks

[petesie]

Oh boy....

You're in for some advice, that's for sure...and of course some of it will be well meaning though some harsh realities and home truths will be aired as well....

My advice...read the forum, all the stuff you need to know, good and bad, is contained within these hallowed halls...

Why don't you wait till you're next trip and see what's happened while you've been away, has your feelings changed, has she changed...lots of things can happen very fast in the life of an LB in a bar in LoS.....

but most of all......good luck to you both.... ;-)

[RobiSLO]

Having long time (sometimes neurotic but every single second jealous) LB girlfriend I can only give you few truths I learned the hard way... don't go into relationship with Thai ladyboy bargirl if you are not repaired for it... especially if she still works in bar. Be prepared to see and hear some things you wouldn't normally see or hear about girlfriend from nice family back in states and be prepared to send money when she needs in not when she asks for it.

Just my 5 cents.

BR

[Thailand-junkie]

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[slappy111]

Quit while you're ahead. You enjoyed your time and maybe next time you're there you can enjoy her company again. Trust me, you think by sending money that you're allowing to to not work the bar scene. They don't think that way. You're only supplementing her income. If she's any good she'll have already lined up the next victim.

Chalk it up to a great experience and move on ASAP. The requests to help her sick ______ (mother, sister, father, etc) will never end.

I know this isn't what you wanted to hear but you need a quick Reality Check.

Good Luck

[onetruesaxon]

You might want to start by planting a tree like the one below so she can change it into well see below

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[slappy111]

OTS Perfect

[batman4ever]

it can be done,but prepare for a lot of hard times

first of all,skip your jealuosi...it will kill you...learn instead to be happy when she has enough costumers to make an living
you are in the lucky position that you often comes to thailand,so why not let it stay this way,and enjoy WHILE youre there??

have been in the same situation for the last 4 years,so i have learned to deal with it,but like i said...it wasnt easy at start..

have never considered to sponsor my girl,as i dont believe that an 24 year (well guy...) can stay without sex for up to 5-7 months...so she might as well gets some bucks for it

in total i have helped her 4 times in the 4 years,every time amounts between 3-10k , i dont consider that sponsoring

[james2035]

this has to be a wind up, if not get her out of the bar and make sure she has enough money yo support her and her family

[thailover57]

About 6 years ago I went to Thailand for a project and met a non-p4p gg hairdresser in Phatum Thani. I was there for six weeks and things progressed very nicely - at least to my way of thinking. As a newbie to Thai culture, I was in for a learning experience. When I went home to the states, we'd talk every night by web cam and I spent all of my vacations with her in Thailand. There would be a week here or there when she would visit her mother and said there was no cell coverage (learning experince arriving). On one of the vacations, I picked up the book Private Dancer and was very happy that I didn't get involved with someone in p4p.

We talked about getting her a visa to come to the states but put that on hold when she won a lottery for low-income housing in her province. She called me her lucky charm. She never asked for money. I'd pay for most things ( hairdressers don't make a lot in Phatum Thani). We'd visit her mother and her brothers and sisters in other provinces. After the visits we'd head to Pattaya for a week of sun and fun. After her condo was completed, I visited and the monks came and blessed her new home.

Then...the hammer. After I got home, I received an email from a guy who said he was going to take her to Europe to marry her. It was my personal email so it had to come from her. She wouldn't answer the phone. About a week later, I got a text from her saying he forced her to do this and she wanted me (she loves me). I copied the text to him. He replied saying, maybe I'll stop the paperwork.
Long story, sorry, but the lesson learned is that the Thai culture is so much different than what you may know. In another thread someone said that Thais look at farangs as a revenue stream. I learned a lesson that was very inexpensive compared to what it could have been. If you're not there full time, I think you stand the chance of ending up being very disappointed.

And I still go to Pattaya on my vacations and have come to admire and enjoy the LB's.

[Uncle]

Hello surfcat69,

If nothing else your post is certainly going to spark the forum.

I think what will be interesting too will be reading about everyone's experiences.

I think most of us would agree life is a learning curve without an instruction manual. The great teacher is experience and we keep learning until the day we die. Nobody is an expert.

I believe it's a perfectly natural human reaction to spend a couple of weeks in holiday mode in LOS with your chosen partner or partners and to return home and experience a bit of a tug on the heartstrings. I'm sure it's happened to plenty of members on here including myself.

My advice would be to give it a little time and see how you feel in a couple of months.

I still have faith in humanity and it would be nice to believe that in the sea of prostitution that is the bars of Thailand there is a girl who'll be true to you but I believe, and as has already been said, the only way it will work and the only way you won't spend your nights wondering what she's doing is if you either move to Thailand and live with her or you bring her to your country but be aware either way you will still be expected to provide for her family.

At the risk of offending a few if you think you're in a relationship with her while you're living in your country and she's selling herself in a bar in LOS only to have her spend exclusive time with you when you return to LOS for a holiday you're kidding yourself, you're just one of her "regulars".

Most working girls, no matter where they're from, like to build up a stable of regulars which equals regular income.

I don't mind admitting I did my balls over a Thai working girl in Sydney a few years back before I'd ever been to LOS. I ended up in a world of mental pain when we broke up and she returned to the brothel. One of the issues was the money we where constantly sending to her family in Thailand (she wasn't working when she was with me).

Mate if your looking for a relathionship please don't try and find one in the bars.

Thailand is a smorgasbord and a man's paradise, just enjoy your holiday and leave it at the airport.


Through me you pass into the city of woe
Through me you pass into eternal pain

Abandon hope all ye who enter here.