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[geetar]

Noobie question.

 

A few months ago I started dating who I suspect to be a post-op Thai LB. She's ridiculously feminine and I approached her as a man to a woman, but after a few dates and some intimacy (she likes it in the butt more than neo-pussy) my spidey senses were tingling. The signs were minor but numerous. Great work downstairs from what I can tell but she does lube up which is another tell-tale. Anyways, my feelings are not at all affected by the likely TS issue because she's an absolute sweet heart and I love her to bits.

 

Here's the thing - she's made jokes about us making babies from the start, but has never brought up the post-op thing. I laugh along, but part of me wants to tell her I know, because I don't care and no kids is not a deal breaker for me. I think she might be scared she'll lose me, because I've never had LB dating tendencies or experience before. I like her femininity but I don't expect her to keep up what is probably an exhausting fib to save face.

 

Today we were talking about cosmetic surgery in Thailand after seeing something on TV and breast implants (in general) and I asked her if hers ever need replacing or if they last forever (dropping a hint that I know). We also talked about how some ladyboys get the snip and others don't. Still no admissions from her. I haven't checked her ID because that seems very low.

 

Do I just wait for her to feel comfortable enough to tell me and date as normal in the mean time?  I honestly do not feel any differently, but I sort of feel it must be a bit of a burden to feel like she has to keep something from me for fear of judgment or abandonment or thinking I'll stay if we can reproduce.

 

Thoughts?

[rxpharm]

Don't overthink things, and don't push her before she's ready to share (if in fact she really is a postop lb). While you feel she has "tell tale" signs, she could be a gg as well who has had plastic surgery work.

 

Let the relationship develop naturally, and when it gets to the point she feels ready to share (if she really is an lb) because she trusts you, that would be the best situation.
 

[scottieM]

Don't overthink things, and don't push her before she's ready to share (if in fact she really is a postop lb). While you feel she has "tell tale" signs, she could be a gg as well who has had plastic surgery work.
 
Let the relationship develop naturally, and when it gets to the point she feels ready to share (if she really is an lb) because she trusts you, that would be the best situation.

fully agreeing. Can't object OP feelings but what if she is a real GG? Breast implant is common also amongst GG.
A LB who went to the famous clinic for the purpose told me that there are "armies" of Thai (GG) ladies in line to get implants.
As far as how "it looks, we know there is no printing mould and they are all different from each other and some (fully natural and genetic) might have unusual configuration.
Need to lube ? Possibly the only indicator but not 100% certain.
If she is a post-op, in her eyes she is not lying on her status (post-op, man made pussy) but finally living the dream at full speed, ie being a woman, she has been looking for.
I personally don't look at post op as LB's anymore. But fully entitled girls with the only "handicap" of not being able to procreate. Many GG's can't either and we don't judge them as " half women".
The only matter that might come up is the psychology of a LB, full of internal conflicts and that might not run away after the chop. Might even get enhanced.
But don't tell me GG's are exempts from some weird behaviour..... LOL

[geetar]

Thanks for the replies fellas.

 

I don't think of her as LB either, but for a lack of better terminology I guess M-F Trans is more accurate?

 

For the sake of elaboration, some of the signs have been

 

• Overtly Sexy
• Bigger fingers and feet than GGs I've dated (but still only 160cm tall)
• Talks lower pitch to her friends in Thai but higher husky/sexy to me
• Circle of friends is primarily gay guys, a couple of LBs and one or two beauty queens who seem like bargirls to me
• Hasn't shown me pics of her as a child
• All social media accounts started at same time 2 years ago which is maybe when final transition took place... if it did

As far as our relationship goes, no change like I've said. 

 

Where it might need to come up is that we've talked about the future and both see marriage as a possibility down the track if things keep working, but neither of our countries support same-sex marriage so that's gonna affect visa issues when we decide which of our countries to live in. I don't know how I'd bring that up without saying why I'm bringing it up, 555.

 

I've got female friends who swear she's post-op and others (including a cosmetic surgeon!) who can't make up their minds! 

[Platapuss]

Thanks for the replies fellas.
 
I don't think of her as LB either, but for a lack of better terminology I guess M-F Trans is more accurate?
 
For the sake of elaboration, some of the signs have been
 

• Overtly Sexy
• Bigger fingers and feet than GGs I've dated (but still only 160cm tall)
• Talks lower pitch to her friends in Thai but higher husky/sexy to me
• Circle of friends is primarily gay guys, a couple of LBs and one or two beauty queens who seem like bargirls to me
• Hasn't shown me pics of her as a child
• All social media accounts started at same time 2 years ago which is maybe when final transition took place... if it did

As far as our relationship goes, no change like I've said. 
 
Where it might need to come up is that we've talked about the future and both see marriage as a possibility down the track if things keep working, but neither of our countries support same-sex marriage so that's gonna affect visa issues when we decide which of our countries to live in. I don't know how I'd bring that up without saying why I'm bringing it up, 555.
 
I've got female friends who swear she's post-op and others (including a cosmetic surgeon!) who can't make up their minds! 

Certainly sounds like a postie . The taste "downstairs" should also be a good guide ( so i'm told anyway )

[rxpharm]

She still could be a gg, but the additional information you've posted seems to tilt more towards postop lb. There are ggs who also have lb friends as well as gay friends.

 

With things changing in many countries, your home country might change the law to recognize same sex marriages. There have been moves in Thailand towards this as well, although changes in gov't have stopped the process from being completed.

 

Anyway, my advice remains the same - don't rush or push things, and definitely don't overthink the situation. You're still guessing and won't know for sure until she's ready to share.

[geetar]

You're right. I just want to be an awesome supportive boyfriend and for now that's going to mean being patient and trustworthy.

[strobriand]

I would just enjoy and let it develop, but a bit of clit licking downstairs should confirm your suspicions. I have had four or five changes that I never even asked them about their situation.

 

Generally I have found I tend to bottom out with my pecker in the pussy a lot in changes