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[Molko66]

Hi all, thought I would join after the past couple of months, looking for a bit of clarity and I have quite a unique story for you all!

Here goes, I'm a guy of 32, and over the past couple of months I've been chatting to a 19 year old pre op shemale in the phillippines. It was quite unique how we came to meet as Im one of these guys you'll see playing guitar on chat roulette! (As it sometimes makes for a more interesting practice session!) one day I was playing and it came round to her and she made some comments during whatever I was playing, and we ended up chatting for a while, she told me she was a shemale and wanted to add me on Skype and so it started.

It's now about three months on and we still chat, most weekdays, rarely weekends, There hasn't been much sexual talk or doing, there's a bit of flirting going on and she is forward with her feelings, she says she loves me and misses me, especially on the days when we don't chat. There is an attraction there, you know when you feel it. however, this is completely new territory for me, sexually and culturally, and there is a considerable age and air mileage difference here and I'm no doubt naive to a lot of things here. there has been no talk whatsoever of money and a few casual jokes about jumping on a plane on the way to work!

There was a time when I thought I could be gay around 18 and I ended up in another guys bed one night after a nightclub, nothing happened and I ended up getting up and going home within the hour! As it just didn't feel right. I'm man enough to openly say when I think a guy is attractive. However, that's where I draw the line, I know true to myself I could never go with another guy, and I've always dated girls since my early teenage years, been engaged twice and never married

I've watched shemale porn on and off since the bloody Internet was born and I do sincerely feel attracted to some of them, and I admit to myself it turns me on and being a guy I do think about her in that way. I have my fantasies and can imagine how it could be in the bedroom, she is incredibly attractive

I'm not sure where this could go and what could happen here thinking long term, if things get really serious is this gonna mean racking up those air miles every few months, seeing more of the world, travelling, broadening the mind, adding to my already depleting bank account, and the eventual her having to put her birth name on a visa to get her over to the lovely town where I live. Or could I end up teaching English as a foreign language over there? Or am I thinking way too much into the present situation. I guess all these things have been thought by many on here. I understand how unique this situation may seem as it seems a lot of you meet these girls in bars when your holidaying.

I sometimes feel a little hesitant, she is young with her whole life in front of her, (I told her that one chat session and she said "I know, I'm looking at it")

Any guys here with similar experiences? Anyone willing to give me the 101 based on what I've said, pitch in and educate me here,

Thanks all

[thailover57]

Welcome and good luck. You may want to read some of MacMan's posts as he is living in the Philippines with his gorgeous lady. He can probably offer you some valuable insights.

[Molko66]

Thanks for the welcome, and Id forgot to mention, this one who I've been speaking to has never worked in the bars or anything,

[Macman]

Welcome, Molko66.  TL57 is referring to a thread of mine in the Expat section (http://ladyboyforum....a-relationship/). I understand your situation, but I can only offer some advice that I think would be given by a lot of the Forum members.  If I sound as if I'm trying to dissuade you from making a leap, it's because I am.  My situation is very different in that I was retired when I made the move, and therefore didn't have to worry about either getting a job here, or "racking up those air miles," as you put it.  Any long-distance relationship is extremely difficult, and when you add that to all the problems involved with a transsexual affair, you are really biting off a lot.  In my case, I had been married previously for a long time, and had 3 children (something that you obviously cannot have with a LB).  I too chatted with Angel over Skype; first just about general things, and then getting more and more flirtatious.  I came here for a visit, not really expecting anything other than a good time.  We hit it off, and I made another visit a few months later.  We then decided to give our relationship a 6-month trial, and I moved here.  Again, in my case, that wasn't a problem, but it certainly would be for someone your age.  My sons know about Angel, and the older one visited here for 3 weeks in 2012.  He absolutely loves Angel.  Keep in mind, though,that at my age and in my situation, I really don't give a damn what other people think (obviously, I care about what my children think, but I'm talking about others.)  That's a luxury that not everyone can afford.  When entering into a relationship with a transsexual, there are so many things to consider, I can't even list them here.  On top of that, since we're talking about people in 2 different countries, your problems will multiply exponentially. I cannot begin to tell you how difficult I find the living here in The Philippines.  I told Angel that if anything should happen to her, I wouldn't hang around for the wake; I'd be on the first plane out.  I was only half-joking.  Please don't misunderstand.  I love Angel, and I'm glad I made the move, but I really feel that I happened to beat some very, very long odds by a combination of luck and my situation at the time.  As my son said when he met her, "Dad, you really hit a home run this time."  (BTW, Thailover57 met Angel when we visited Thailand early in 2012).  If you decide to come here to visit your girl, please, please weigh everything carefully.  You'll be on holiday, and will have a tendency to be led by your heart and a few other body parts.  It's like the old advice about never making up your mind to move somewhere based on experiences gotten only from a vacation. 

 

I'm sorry to be so negative, and in fact it feels very strange to say these things when I'm living a happy life with someone I met just the way you did, but I must stress again that my situation was a lot different than yours.  In any case, don't rush into anything.  Good luck.

[jay_c_154]

Hi Molko66,

Just read your post and it really struck a chord with me. I'm 6 years older than you but i too have thought that i was gay. I went to a gay bath house and it just wasn't for me. I would prefer to be either 100% gay or straight as being a ladyboy lover does bring about unique circumstances. Mainly those described by Macman.

My advise it this: Move to Austrlia. lol.

I'm half joking but if i'm being honest, (and i assume you're living in the UK ?) i would never have pursued a relationship with a ladyboy if i was still at home in the UK. The fact that there is such a huge Asian population over here makes it far easier to meet a ladyboy than in the UK. 

I met a 27 year ladyboy from the Philippines who is stunning looking with the best pair of tits you've ever seen. She still has her cock aswell although its her long term goal to have SRS. She works and studies and doesn't want any money from me. The thing is she's keen as hell to meet a genuine guy over here. A lot of the guys ladyboys meet just want sex and don't want to be seen walking down the street with a ladyboy. So if you are genuine then that will put you on the top of their list. Personally, i'm in a relationship that i am finding it very difficult to end. I've been honest with my ladyboy friend about it and she is dating other guys.

Regarding moving to the Philippines to work as an english teacher - i think you'd be fucking mad. I've never been to the philippines and there's absolutely no way i would ever consider moving there. Plus, you're 32 years old and still have another 30 or 40 years of working life left. Unless you can work remotely ?? I don't know.

Anyways, please keep us informed as to what you decide to do. And good luck.

Jay.

[Macman]

jay_c, I'm not sure if this was a legitimate post.  Molko66 sent me a PM requesting that I comment.  As you can see, I did, with no response.  I even sent him a PM, asking if he'd seen my reply.  Nothing.

[jay_c_154]

Macman - fair enough. Maybe it was legitimate and he got cold feet. The exact sort of thing i was doing last year. lol.

[Macman]

It could be that, jay_c.