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[Danya]

Newby here who is going to Pattaya on my next vacation later this year, I am a French Canadian from Quebec, I, just like many newbies here thank you all for sharing your knowledge and wisdom.

 

I just was turned down by one ladyboy on ThaiFriendly... Maybe I was too romantic,,, I wanted one to want me before going,,, my bad... lol at myself. All they want is in our pocket. I won't make the same mistake again. They do drive me crazy and always have!!!

 

Background: Tried for many years with generic women but never found what I wanted with them. 

[Hard News]

Thailand will look after you, and give you a good time !

 

Put remember and except that most are only after what`s in your pocket !!

[Moo Yung]

Welcome to the forum!

 

I wouldn't take the rejection on Thai Friendly personal. I am sure the ladyboys  get a lot of contact from guys not in Pattaya, many of whom pretend they are coming soon and never show up, in fact I'd say that's true in the vast majority of cases - with guys just looking for a cheap thrill or free cam show.If you were in town they'd be queuing up to meet you.

 

If you are genuinely heading out to Pattaya for a frist trip lining up a date in advance is not a good move, you'll have no shortage of options, which will become evident moments after stepping out of your hotel for the first time. 

 

If you are set on lining up a few dates it's better to keep online chat to a minimum and just grab their phone number without making a promise - many just put it on their profiles anyway.

[Danya]

Thanks for the advice.

 

Yes I am going this year when I will be on vacation from my work. I understand now what is happening. I would do exactly as them if it was me. They must be so over these fakes.

 

I want to introduce myself. Close to twelve years ago I have met a white American trans living in Montreal. As much as I truly enjoyed having sex with her she was a complete messed up and mean individual. I guess with everything she had happening in her life it lead her to become that way.

 

To cut it short I discovered after a few weeks dating her what was her real game. With time afer a few dates pictures were done together so she could blackmail sending pics to wife, family or friends to get money later... My reaction was ok you want it this way, no problem. I introduced her that exact day to many of my friends who were not having any ideas of me dating a trans. She never got anything from me,

 

Still it has left me with a sour taste in my mouth about trans dating... What if they are just a collection of freaks like her? But the problem is GG no longer satisfy me. I tried going back with one but it's definitely over and very clear in my mind I cannot.

 

Now an Asian Ladyboy have always been what I truly want. Still I am mixed up as what I want more. To bang as many as I can or a true relationship? I saw one on ThaiFriendly who stood out, with a master's degree as she wrote in her profile... Her I would have been really interested in having a GF experience to see if she could be one I could bring over here to live with me.

 

My options are limited here. Some escorts who are not really what I want... no interest at all in fact and I must also add I am quite tired of being alone hence the GF experience.

 

I know how it will end... when being over there it will be like in a candy store and will want to bang them all. I just hope one will really stand out.

 

Thanks to all of you.

 

I am going later this year and will post it here and hopefully I will be able to have some wingmen to help me in this.

 

I will had a pic of myself now.

[rxpharm]

Danya trying to establish a relationship with an Asian lb, particularly Thai is no easy task. If they are in or have been in p4p (pay for play) scene, the odds are extremely long that anything successful could develop.

 

On a holiday you usually do not have enough time to get to know a non p4p lb well enough to attempt a relationship - and don't get smitten with a p4p lb, whose main aim will be to extract the maximum amount of money from you.

 

I would suggest you use this holiday to see if you are really "into" the lb scene. If so, then you can plan for a long term relationship.

[Danya]

Thanks RX,

 

At work sometimes I meet Thai, Vietnamese, Chinese, Japanese, etc... No such chance as meeting a nice looking/good person ladyboy. I know they all are different by the way. A Thai is not a Japanese or Chinese. I can see the difference.

 

Since sponsoring someone is a lot of troubles and involves lots of responsability, yeah exactly I won't bring a P4P that's for sure. I wrote before I was hopeful one would stood out... definitely not a P4P. I have had enough with my one wild experience here.

 

The difficulty of establishing a relationship on a holiday was the reason why beginning writing on ThaiFriendly seemed to me a good beginning at first. I was looking for those with education like a bachelor or master... but again they can write whatever they want.

 

But I understand if they've lost countless hours chating with guys who never show up... I would myself be cold as ice too.

 

So I have a problem of credibility for them. I need to show up. I will. First trip will be vacation time. I will go to enjoy my time and discover as you tell me.

 

I have been looking at so many of these videos... not just the fun ones... the documentaries as well. The reality is what I was expecting. I know what is coming. I have been with a trans before even if it was a shortlived one... and on top one of the worst quality.

 

At work I deal with mostly higher revenue peoples from all kinds of venue. The majority are straight couples, I have gay couples but I've never had a man with a ts or lb. In fact I have never met anyone else who has always been with this mad, wild attraction for lb as I have. It is good having found this forum.

 

Thanks to all of you.

[Danya]

Maybe after my first trip I will change my mind though... lol

 

They say Bangkok is changing one forever... I will see.

[rxpharm]

Danya, it's good to have a dream, and it's good to make a plan. Sometimes they work out and sometimes they don't. One major key to finding an lb partner is patience, and understanding. Don't be in a hurry.

 

Online dating services might work, but as you have discovered, it's not easy, especially since there is not much way of verifying what they say is true (for both sides). Also it's good you are viewing some documentaries, but most of them are inaccurate unless they are being produced with close collaboration with Thais. These are often sensationalized, or affected by having a western "bias".

 

One thing that would help - especially if you decide Thai lbs are going to be your aim, is to learn Thai. This isn't easy, but will go a long way to help understand a potential partner, and her family.

[Danya]

One to whom I had left a message before I stopped leaving them was insisting for us to speak on Skype...She had a surprising good English but was also busy at the beauty salon with changing her hair color????? What is that????.. lol I was like it's just anything. Get your hair done and call me another time lol. Anyway it was hard hearing each other so we agreed to call another time.

 

You are absolutely right about getting dates... If I don't like her in person I will be stuck with her... I must stop this right away and meet them in person.

 

She looks really like on her pictures. I like that.

 

I have found some Thai language tutorial. It is like mandarin chinese with different intonations. This will be the hardest part. The letters begin to make sense a little already. Before I was looking at them and it was just anything. In French we are used to accent on letters changing pronounciation and meaning. It is not as confusing though. Good advice.

 

Even if I wanted to hurry I cannot with my work. I will be able to go during our fall here and if I can I will try to advance for during our summer which I am not sure is the best decision... I make so much money during our spring and summer. I also am the best consultant where I work so they will be a little upset to see me going during our big season... It will cost me an harm litterally to get weeks off during any of these seasons... Anyway it will be very costly to get one here with me anyway.... I better not worry about this already. And I am not even talking about all the many trips I will need to do... That's already putting a smile on my face right now. I am mouthwatering just thinking about it.

 

I envy those Aussies who are so close... so much easier to get there than me!