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[malibu515]

I'm just wondering if anyone has had as much negative response as I get if  I mention that I vacation in Thailand ?  Note...I am not saying to people that I meet that I am "mongering" or seeking young women

(all of legal age)

Immediately there is the response that I must be up to no good.  Evidently the word is out that people that go to Thailand are BAD PEOPLE !

And...should I venture to say to someone that I know well that I have met nice girls over there, the response is, they must be hookers and that means that I am diseased to have contact with them. OR

worse !  That I tell them that the girls are in their 20's while I am mid 50's ?  Shit...call the police and run for cover.  Im robbing the cradle !  Dont you know that you are only entitled to be with other old, wrinkly

females, with bad teeth and brittle hair, because thats what you got ?

No way would I ever DARE to say to another American man that I had experience with a Shemale, Ladyboy...whatever !  Damn...My reputation would be in tatters.

So do others avoid telling friends where they are going on vacation ?  Do you avoid telling anybody in the West that your daliances are with attractive females with smooth skin and pleasant demeaner ?

And, G-d forbid !  Actually say.."I go out with the third sex"!

[The-Sith]

Hey, lets face it..... 90% of males would LOVE to be banging 20 year old babes. And probably 30 to 40% would like to try ladyboys. But very few do because they are oppressed in the West.

No need to tell them anything. They wouldnt understand (or cant admit to understand) what we understand.

[P&G]

I agree that 90% or more would like to bang girls in their 20s but am not so sure that so many (30 %) would like to try ladyboys. Whatever, as mentionned, they wouldn't understand anyway : wouldn't understand what a shemale is, wouldn't understand that you can like it, wouldn't understand that you aren't gay etc ... 

[JOKER187]

Hello Friends,

Haven’t been on here in while. I guess I’m guilty and sorry to say that I check in here wherever I have a trip coming up, but that’s another topic on its own.

Here are my two cents.

After many years of being a victim to “I wonder what they would think” kind of mentality, I would say that the problem is not them. Live your life the way you see fit. Don’t try to conform to standards that others what you to conform to. For most part, the ones that are quick to judge are those who either are too scared to admit that they would trade places in a heart beat or are still in denial. However if you feel that by omitting some of the details would make your life easier? Then... don’t say anything and cut the cord of malevolence. Happy hunting. Cheers

[patrickfitsmichael]

Totally agree with Joker 187

Pick who you tell what to - if you think you will get negative responses don't tell them.

do you make judgement on their religion, politics, marriage partner, life choices, etc etc

As said remember if 99% of men had the chance they would be doing exactly what you are doing ( well maybe not LB but that's just a preference thing) 

Remember the famous quote -What ppl think of me is non of my business.

[patrickfitsmichael]

 

[P&G]

Totally agree with Joker 187

Pick who you tell what to - if you think you will get negative responses don't tell them.

do you make judgement on their religion, politics, marriage partner, life choices, etc etc

As said remember if 99% of men had the chance they would be doing exactly what you are doing ( well maybe not LB but that's just a preference thing) 

Remember the famous quote -What ppl think of me is non of my business.

 

I do agree with this point. You needn't their aproval of your going to Thailand, but in order to avoid criticism, just don't tell them. If they may discover you have been in Thailand, don't talk of ladyboys. Alsways keep a couple of temples, islands or mountainous landscapes to tell them this is where you've been. They needn't know. 

[playboyninja]

At first I hid it from my friends pretty well, but then I discovered it was easier and better for my own sanity to just tell them I am interested in ladyboys. Most of my friends were just fascinated more than anything, but I think I have a good circle of friends. One of them even admitted that if he wasn't married he would probably come with me and try a ladyboy.
Here is the thing though, if you encounter anyone still being an ignorant asshole you can always call them on their own insecurities and tell them you feel bad for them not having the courage to try new things and live their life. "never try never know"

Admittedly with work I am not as open because I cannot confront each person about their bias which in turn could affect me with a change in administration due to working in local government. I know that I have protection under law and with the union but it is easier not to let it come to that. Some of my coworkers found out when they were looking at my friends screen snooping on my facebook and googled the hot ladyboy that posted on my wall and found out she did porn. I had a conversation with them and they were understanding.

As far as my family goes, the ones I care about know and are supportive and the others I don't need their approval.

Every time I am honest with someone, I feel stronger as a person which is helpful because I have serious self-esteem issues to overcome.

[malibu515]

Unfortunately, in the Great Wasteland (the USA), certain social norms are necessary to survive in a social and working environment. It is just more predictable to lie your head off as to what you are doing overseas.  Better to say you were taking a cruise or in Japan on a tour than to spill the beans about your real endeavors. Honesty is not the best policy when you can be wounded by its effect.

[manfredmann]

I know this is a late post to this topic, but just have to add my two cents; Anyone who 'disapproves' of your life, preferences and activities...it's simple..."fuck em".

[Surin Nix]

The thing about sexuality that I have discovered is that we do not choose what we like. We discover it.

That is true for every living person that likes to have sex.

You discovered what I do, but you like me. Why? I have no idea. It just is what it is.

It is in disregard that I think that we can learn a lesson from our gate cousins. The thing about sexuality that I have discovered is that we do not choose what we like. We discover it.

That is true for every living person that likes to have sex.

You discovered what I do, that you like me. Why? I have no idea. It just is what it is.

It is in disregard that I think that we can learn a lesson from our gay cousins. for so long they were shamed in Society and made to feel as though there was something wrong with it. We live in much more enlightened times now, and now there is a broad acceptance of the whole concept of being gay.

We, as a lady boy lovers are on the back side of the train. Don’t expect much understanding, except from those of us who share your interest. And there are many, many others.

Take some comfort in that I know that you’re not alone

[Surin Nix]

damn!

I was voice dictating that last message, and upon rereading it I realize how incoherent that sounds

I meant to say “gay cousins”, And how we all could learn a lesson from the experience of the gay community.

Meaning, that we could learn a lesson or two about acceptance and about being a true selves.