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[Lukas]

I am only 29 but often I cannot achieve a full boner when I am with prostitutes. My pecker expands and becomes somewhat hard, only to become soft again and insufficient for penetration. This has become a real problem for me in recent years.

 

I have always been a chronic masturbator. For much of my life I have been a total incel, not because of my physical appearance (I have always been athletic and in good shape) but rather because of my social anxiety and my inability to fit into society. Now it is as though I cannot keep a full boner unless I am jerking off by myself and living in my own fantasies.

 

What can I do to solve this problem? How can I keep a full boner during encounters with prostitutes?

[playboyninja]

I have this issue as well and it stems from anixiety. They real key here is to go from an attitude of " I need to get hard to fuck her" to letting things progress naturally.
When I find myself in this situation I like to kiss passionately and let her rub against me and that usually does the trick. Don't force things it will only make it worse instead take a more passive role until you are ready.

[Lukas]

Will pills such as cialis and viagra before encounters solve this problem and allow my to achieve a full and hard erection with minimal stimulation? I have never tried any kind of pecker pills.

I am also a cuddly and affectionate kind of person. I like to begin slowly with a lot of cuddling and passionate kisses and then groping and rubbing against my Tgirl. When an escort rushes me and skips all of that I begin to feel really uncomfortable and become anxious.

[Spyder Rocket]

Sounds like you've conditioned yourself to prefer masturbaition over real sex.

You might want to abstain from jacking off for a while and then give it another try.

[Nick Bullseye]

Go see a shrink specializing in sexual problems. Could help you.

[The-Sith]

Dude,

A lot of younger guys now have that problem..... You have conditioned your self to masturbation (and whatever stimuli you use when masturbating). It's basically like a coke addiction. Hard to break. Dopamine release. But the brain has neuroplasticity and you can retrain it.

Here is a program on that.....


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[mikel1]

Stop wanking. Go cold turkey and your brain will rewire itself. Go to the gym, throw yourself into work, a hobby whatever and don't cheat. Resist the urge and you'll soon be ok.

[Lukas]

I have been jacking off constantly since I was 12 because I could never get a girlfriend because of social anxiety. Now the problems associated with chronic masturbation are becoming evident in me.

Now I am in a new country, in Spain to be exact. The culture is more open and there are transsexual prostitutes everywhere. I am going out more with people and proactively searching for erotic encounters with beautiful Tgirls. I don't masturbate anywhere near as much as I used to do. I want to abstain from pornography and excessive masturbation and reboot my sexual system.

However, I need advice for the present. I tend to go with a TS escort about twice a week. I need an immediate plan of action.

Will cialis or viagra serve as a temporary solution? Is there any other drugs that you can recommend?

[rxpharm]

There is a previous post that has some information about Overuse of Erectile Dysfunction Drugs Problem?  I would not necessarily go with the mushrooms mentioned by the last poster.

 

You have been given good advice by The Sith and mikel1 - which is better than taking a pill.

 

The other issue that is affecting your performance is anxiety and that will not be addressed by taking Viagra or a similar drug. You are better off practicing de-stressing/relaxation techniques (plenty of them can be found on-line). Once you get your anxiety/stress under control, your performance will improve.

[playboyninja]

I also appreciate the responses and advice. I knew my issue was psychological too but not sure what it stemmed from. Since I was 9 I have been masturbating twice a day. This is going to be difficult for me to stop as I get angry and start snapping at people when I haven't been able to resolve my urges for a 2 days. Looks like I am going to need a new hobby.

[mikel1]

Stop wanking. Go cold turkey and your brain will rewire itself. Go to the gym, throw yourself into work, a hobby whatever and don't cheat. Resist the urge and you'll soon be ok.

I should have included Avoid Porn!

[Eboardbuilder]

I'm 28 and I had this a few years back. I stopped watching porn and stopped jacking off for a month just to reset my mind. It's a mental thing more than physical porn fucks up the brain hardcore when you watch it daily and jack off often.