Thanks for sharing your thoughts Lukas, I too prefer postop lbs, and am fortunate enough to have a Thai postop lb girlfriend.
I generally agree with your feelings - your aversion to anal sex is a personal one, and while I do prefer postops, I have had a few encounters with lovely preops and the experiences have been satisfying.
Something else that personally excites me is that I am giving pleasure to a lady who use to have the same equipment as I did and she is giving pleasure to me. That is something that having sex with a gg cannot give.
There are few postop p4p escorts in the west as they often go "stealth" after SRS, preferring give up their old preop life (whether it was escorting or something else). They are only a few who maintain their openly identity as a ts/tg after SRS.
In Thailand lbs while facing challenges, don't have as much stigma attached, so they are still willing to be identified as a ladyboy, whether preop or postop. There is not as much desire/compulsion to go "stealth" after SRS, since they cannot change their legal status (yet) on their government IDs.
There are a few postop lb bars around, but the former best postop bar, King's Corner will likely become an all gg bar in the near future.
I have an overwhelming preference for post-op ladyboys. I have only a minor interest in genetic females and pre-op ladyboys. In this regard, my sexuality is like a niche within a niche. I often feel quite lonely and frustrated by the situation.
Ladyboys make for much better lovers and erotic playmates than genetic females. I am convinced that men and women are not naturally compatible and that our instinctual interests are fundamentally contradictory (we are only compatible in the domain of biological reproduction). Men have an inborn desire to sleep with many women freely and spread our seeds far and wide. We enjoy freedom and adventure. Women are hardwired to find the best potential mate or alpha male and trap him into parenthood and marriage. They ultimately seek to get impregnated by the strongest and wealthiest man whom they can find and then force him to become her economic provider. It is no secret that many women don't care too much for sex and only see their own sexual value as a bargaining currency in order to obtain resources and other favors from their husbands or boyfriends. In light of this, it is not absurd to say that we men often get a bum deal under traditionalism. Ladyboys, in contrast with genetic females, are not enslaved to the female reproductive imperative and tend to want the same things that we want: passionate erotic fun and mutual companionship. Our interests are complementary.
It is therefore no surprise that in times prior to traditionalism wealthy and powerful men frequently had transsexual lovers in addition to their legitimate gg wives. Polygamy was the norm in Pagan societies. Many aristocrats would have their official political spouse, who would provide them with genetic progeny, and also a castrated and feminized TS who would provide companionship and fulfill all male sexual needs. Ancient societies seemed to understand that men and women are not truly compatible and that masculine men and what we today call ladyboys are indeed natural counterparts on a spiritual level. In those days there was no taboo concerning male-ladyboy love. Everything changed when the toxic morality of Judeo-Christianity managed to take root in Europe and the derivative ideology of traditionalism was imposed upon almost everybody in the Western world.
Today we are fortunate enough to enjoy the blessings of advanced medical science. Surgeons can create beautiful pussies and ladyboys can become more like genetic women in terms of physical parts. We now have the best of both worlds: a beautiful ladyboy mind combined with a beautifully created neovagina many times better than the crude castrations to which ancient ladyboys subjected themselves. For me, post-ops include a perfect equilibrium of transsexual mind and heterosexual functionality.
I also find ladyboy pussies to be really exciting. To be honest, I don't really have much interest in regular vaginas. I have never found myself too fixated on the vagina while having sex with genetic females. I consider ladyboy pussies to be artistic. I am fascinated by how they are constructed and I like to visualize internally their anatomical structure as I am poking them. This turns me on even more. I love to explore artificial caves much more than natural caves.
With regards to escorts in stealth mode, I really don't believe that the number of post-ops posing as genetic females is anywhere near as high as some people make out (although it certainly does happen from time to time). Most post-op pussies are not 100% passable. There is often visible scarring and structures that are obviously different to those of natal vaginas. I find it hard to believe that experienced men would not tell the difference almost immediately.
This may be a slight tangent, but among the TS escorting community there seems to exist the notion that becoming a post-op would ruin business prospects because all trans-oriented men supposedly love only transwomen with cocks. Many choose not to get the operation until after they have left the industry. However, this is certainly a misconception. Post-op escorts are considerably rare. Many post-op escorts have an abundance of clients because of their relative rarity. Although pre-op lovers are the most common kind of trans-oriented man, there are still many guys who are curious about experiencing the novel sensations of a post-op pussy and who are willing to pay for such an experience. There certainly is a demand.
That SRS is possible at all is pretty amazing. However, the results can be very variable, similar to breast implants - some feel better than the real thing but others are unfortunately quite flawed.
It is true that results are variable. The quality of the post-op pussy depends largely on the skill of the surgeon and the material that the surgeon has to work with.
It is such a shame that some transwomen opt for cheaper surgeries and then suffer the consequences of botched results. It would have been better for them to remain patient and seek out only the best surgical options even if it means waiting a few more years.
Fortunately today there are more options for financing sex reassignment surgery. Crowd fund sites seem to be sympathetic towards TS women and people say that webcam sites pay well.
I had sex with a post-op escort in Spain and her pussy was poorly constructed and quite difficult to use. I just wish that these girls would avoid shortcuts and seek out only reputable surgeons.
As with any surgical procedure there will be varying results depending on the skills of the surgeon. I have had encounters with postop lbs with poor results (less than ideal appearance, no sensation, tightness and lack of depth), on the other hand I have had amazing encounters with postop lbs with excellent results - natural appearance, orgasmic, adequate depth, and most amazing is the ability to self lubricate - which is quite rare and only a few surgeons can produce results like this. There are a few postop lbs I have met, who have developed good vaginal muscle strength and are able to massage the sperm out of you. I feel that if you take time to give them pleasure, they will give more effort to make sure you feel good.
I am fascinated by your mention of self-lubricating post-op vaginas. How is self-lubrication achieved surgically? I want to know more.