I cannot help thinking back on the last decade which basically defined my rise and self-decided fall as “Mr. ladyboy”... As written in another post, I now focus on my lovely Jakarta-based FemBoyfriend in a homosexual relationship. I adore him, and I love him. All fine.
However, there are still things to be said – thoughts to be figured out. At least for me.
I have hurt ladyboys – I have deceived them – they are very easy targets, and I did wrongly. I was a VANE guy – due to my looks and empathy I could more or less seduce anyone within the Asian trans-reality. And I did – big time. This I have also written about in another thread, so no more of that.
But Liza will always be so deep in me. She moved from Bkk to her village some time ago and we still have sort of contact – Liza is an awesome person – I visited her several times in Bkk, and she visited me here in Jakarta also. Liza was 100% NICE and SWEET and LOYAL as a ROCK. I remember the first and only time when she brought me to King’s Castle 3 in Patpong: “You have never been to a ladyboy-bar, you need to see it, darling... this is where I began...” she explained, and what an evening we had :-)
And I still sit here and wonder WHY I didn’t just stay with Liza. We matched perfectly – except maybe that living 3.000 kilometers apart is still an obstacle – or maybe I was still just “doing my Danish thing” and neglected the treasure I had in my hands... that’s probably 60% of the answer...
I have hurt people – not deliberately at all – but due to my materialistic approach to sexual vanity. I wanted them to ADORE me, to WANT me – no matter the cost – and they did. Now I’m paying the moral price – which I had coming.
I am NOT proud of all I have done – far from.
So to all you handsome youngsters wannabe ladyboy-lovers who want free-bees and adoration... DO NOT! PLEASE! Because the victim will NOT be you – it will be the trans-woman that you seduce.
If you are SERIOUS about her (or your femboy or whatever you cater to) then go for it, but not just for fun. Well, it took me a decade to get to this realization. Hopefully, it will be useful to others.
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Liza, her friend Nury, me and others at a very nice evening at Kings Castle 3 some years ago...