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#1 hankhavelock

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 08:21 PM

Guys

 

I’ve been active in my love for transwomen for the past decade (most here would rephrase that to: I’ve been a ladyboy lover for the last ten years) and that has given me a wealth of experiences – good and not so good – mostly good, actually. I live in Jakarta, Indonesia, which due to its mere size is without a doubt the Southeastasian country with most transwomen.

 

It’s a long story, and I am planning to write a book/blog about it. I have always been totally open about it – to me there is no walk of shame – rather a walk of pride – why? Because showing off not only the sweet lady but also my political, liberal approach means something to me in societies so hung up by themselves and their dead quasi/nazi-religious opinions – AND, I never read Christ speaking negatively of transsexuals... but for sure the church did... the fascist bastards. Well, I come from Denmark, and we tend to be a bit more liberal and reasonable up there. Cartoons are always grand... :-)

 

Still, even my Danish friends were surprised those ten years ago – several needed a deeper explanation – they simply didn’t know what a transwoman was, believe it or not. Denmark may be the most advanced country on the globe when it comes to liberal, democratic values... but they didn’t know... :-)

 

Now they do :-)

 

And why would I want to write a book/blog?

 

Well, because I swiftly got into the deeper aspects of transsexualism – most of my closest friends are, indeed, trannies, and the story needs to be told from a different perspective – from many perspectives, actually. Gay people have fought a HARD fight over the last fifty years, and that fight has made a difference – unfortunately this is not the case for transpeople. So LGBT should probably be LGBt or LGB, as some of my rather political transfriends prefer. I tend to agree, but I also see no reason for transsexuals to alienate themselves from homosexuals - it may backfire, actually - trannies need all the help they can get, for sure...

 

TRANSPEOPLE still meet an adversity that is WAY above homosexual men and women. Why? Well, partly because you cannot HIDE your transsexuality – because it is not really about sexuality but rather gender-identity – which makes the term TRANS”SEXUALITY” a bit off the point, actually. And the world is just not yet ready to encompass the beauty of a biological man gender identifying as a woman. They may have been hippies in the early 1970es philosophizing about “being whom you really are”, but still they do not realize that being transgender is for sure one of the most demanding and honest levels of self-expression! Very little even comes CLOSE!

 

To me this is clear as a church-bell ringing in zero-degree weather... to most others it remains weird and taboo.

 

Well, I don’t care much for unintelligent taboo – I do care about my friends – and I REALLY respect the fact, that the women I date are so much braver than I...

 

Comments (if knowledgeable and with a minimum degree of IQ) are obviously welcome. Let me hear, what you think, plz, gentlemen.

 

Should I get political or keep my mouth shut?

 

Yours

HankyPanky

 

PS: My very good “live-in” friend J (I will not publicize her name here) has just embarked on her masters degree in social psychology and will, if I have any saying, come out as the most knowledgeable transsexual scholar regarding translife in Asia with in 2 years – hell, she already is... And to me that, obviously, is important. To me it is important that the transcommunity itself takes responsibility (with a little help from its friends) and move ahead in defining the aspects of translife in this region, that we all love so much. Great if you are a successful escort – but better if you are a meaningful scholar... I do my best to support her.

 


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#2 Boomer3x

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Posted 01 October 2015 - 11:14 PM

Will there be pictures?
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#3 sornierob

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Posted 02 October 2015 - 05:30 AM

Do I have to be a libtard to like ladyboys??



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Posted 02 October 2015 - 10:18 AM

Seems to me that such a book/blog would be a favour to the transwoman/ladybody community, but also to humanity in general realizing itself and its nature, wondrously variegated as it is. Important to share - we have a lot to learn, and to love.


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#5 Surin Nix

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Posted 02 October 2015 - 01:20 PM

I've always enjoyed your posts Hank. You write well, are well informed, compassionate, intelligent, and sometimes very witty. Id read your book.

I came out of the closet as a ladyboy lover to the woman (gg) I eventually married. Telling her, during our dating years, was the hardest thing I ever did, but I'm glad I did it. I expected rejection, but received compassion and curiosity. So, a guy like yourself, who is fully immersed in the life, and willing to talk about it, might well give voice to the many closeted ladyboy lovers who are out there. I've met many of them, and sometimes, the best we can do is come out to like minded guys we meet as we travel to LOS.

Ladyboys have changed me.....or perhaps I should say discovered what was already there lying dormant, since my first encounter in 2009. Like you, I admire very much their courage, and I think you might be able to tell the story in a very enlightening and entertaining way.

Oh, and will there be pictures?
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#6 hankhavelock

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Posted 02 October 2015 - 05:11 PM

No, being a socalled "libtard" (what a weird word, but the meaning is fine - someone living a fantasy) should NOT be a prerogative for being "trans oriented" :-) To some extent that is my whole point, actually...

 

 

I thank you for your comments, gentlemen - pictures? Perhaps, if they serve a purpose within the content. I'm not planning a porno-book here... ;-) But images, perhaps.

 

Ofcourse, you will all have to excuse my "broken French" - English is not my first language, but I feel comfortable enuff about the lingo to at least make a draft to be corrected by my very able (and of course transsexual) American copywriter :-)

 

And ENTERTAINING is a good clue, Surin, as well as informative, I guess. The fact is that it is so entwined with the typical adversity met by trans women (I have just been adviced to the fact that it is correctly trans woman in two words, as opposed to transwoman, which almost escaped me, but still...) that it cannot be ALL fun and games - how ever, it should be an easy, fun read casting light over us "perverts" as normal, easy going guys with a sexual twist.

 

Because that's what it is - we dig our trans women and we are as attracted to them as any man is to whom ever he may be attracted to.

 

There are tons of aspects, and I have to go back to my notes from the last decade to make a coherent and fulfilling story out of it.

 

I'll give it a shot for sure.

 

Thx again!

 

H


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#7 rxpharm

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Posted 02 October 2015 - 05:38 PM

hankhavelock, I think you should give it a shot - but in book form vs: a blog. Unfortunately there are some malicious people floating around the internet who seek to cause problems for ts/tg's and their admirers/partners. Going via the book format (either print or self-published e-book), would make this less a possibility.

 

Having followed your writings over the past years, I am happy to see you move towards understanding vs: sexual pleasure. I think your writings will help give more understanding of the ts/tg scene.


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#8 hankhavelock

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Posted 02 October 2015 - 06:33 PM

hankhavelock, I think you should give it a shot - but in book form vs: a blog. Unfortunately there are some malicious people floating around the internet who seek to cause problems for ts/tg's and their admirers/partners. Going via the book format (either print or self-published e-book), would make this less a possibility..

I sort of had that feeling - so a book it is. And I'm sure the topic is interesting enuff to find a publisher if not self-publishing might be preferable.

 

I should add that my former writings were always about understanding - and not so much about sexual pleasure. I used to be quite "unforgiving" in regards to the whole prostitution-issue, which I did find shallow and not courageous.

 

That has changed - we all live and learn, hopefully, but my focus is as it has always been on a very deep loyalty to the transsexual concept.


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#9 hankhavelock

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Posted 02 October 2015 - 06:44 PM

Actually, that may be a point to put in the book - I really have to get my notes sorted out here :-)


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#10 youknow87

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Posted 12 October 2015 - 04:48 AM

Hello Hank,

That's a great idea! You should definitely give it a shot.

Having a mixture of experiences myself (also good and not so good, but mostly good), I would love to conversate with you sometime to share ideas. Please, Let me know if you are interested in that.

Best,

Anthony

#11 veveron

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Posted 12 October 2015 - 08:49 AM

Needs a hook, or no one will pick it up, ie the pics request.

 

I mean I like ladyboys, started with them before I was with a girl, but I'm not going to read hundreds of pages of just musings on transgenders.

 

Also, not being in the crowd that accepts 'trans' or third sex, not sure if I'd be interested without some excitement or inside information in the book.



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Posted 12 October 2015 - 08:00 PM

I ran across an article about an application called 'Pronoun.' I don't know if it's available or is in development, but supposedly it's a robust platform helping writers self-publish. Might be worth checking out.
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