Guys
I’ve been active in my love for transwomen for the past decade (most here would rephrase that to: I’ve been a ladyboy lover for the last ten years) and that has given me a wealth of experiences – good and not so good – mostly good, actually. I live in Jakarta, Indonesia, which due to its mere size is without a doubt the Southeastasian country with most transwomen.
It’s a long story, and I am planning to write a book/blog about it. I have always been totally open about it – to me there is no walk of shame – rather a walk of pride – why? Because showing off not only the sweet lady but also my political, liberal approach means something to me in societies so hung up by themselves and their dead quasi/nazi-religious opinions – AND, I never read Christ speaking negatively of transsexuals... but for sure the church did... the fascist bastards. Well, I come from Denmark, and we tend to be a bit more liberal and reasonable up there. Cartoons are always grand... :-)
Still, even my Danish friends were surprised those ten years ago – several needed a deeper explanation – they simply didn’t know what a transwoman was, believe it or not. Denmark may be the most advanced country on the globe when it comes to liberal, democratic values... but they didn’t know... :-)
Now they do :-)
And why would I want to write a book/blog?
Well, because I swiftly got into the deeper aspects of transsexualism – most of my closest friends are, indeed, trannies, and the story needs to be told from a different perspective – from many perspectives, actually. Gay people have fought a HARD fight over the last fifty years, and that fight has made a difference – unfortunately this is not the case for transpeople. So LGBT should probably be LGBt or LGB, as some of my rather political transfriends prefer. I tend to agree, but I also see no reason for transsexuals to alienate themselves from homosexuals - it may backfire, actually - trannies need all the help they can get, for sure...
TRANSPEOPLE still meet an adversity that is WAY above homosexual men and women. Why? Well, partly because you cannot HIDE your transsexuality – because it is not really about sexuality but rather gender-identity – which makes the term TRANS”SEXUALITY” a bit off the point, actually. And the world is just not yet ready to encompass the beauty of a biological man gender identifying as a woman. They may have been hippies in the early 1970es philosophizing about “being whom you really are”, but still they do not realize that being transgender is for sure one of the most demanding and honest levels of self-expression! Very little even comes CLOSE!
To me this is clear as a church-bell ringing in zero-degree weather... to most others it remains weird and taboo.
Well, I don’t care much for unintelligent taboo – I do care about my friends – and I REALLY respect the fact, that the women I date are so much braver than I...
Comments (if knowledgeable and with a minimum degree of IQ) are obviously welcome. Let me hear, what you think, plz, gentlemen.
Should I get political or keep my mouth shut?
Yours
HankyPanky
PS: My very good “live-in” friend J (I will not publicize her name here) has just embarked on her masters degree in social psychology and will, if I have any saying, come out as the most knowledgeable transsexual scholar regarding translife in Asia with in 2 years – hell, she already is... And to me that, obviously, is important. To me it is important that the transcommunity itself takes responsibility (with a little help from its friends) and move ahead in defining the aspects of translife in this region, that we all love so much. Great if you are a successful escort – but better if you are a meaningful scholar... I do my best to support her.