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[surfcat69]

Manfred, after having been in a good relationship with a LB (who worked at a bar on and off), my advice is that you should probably stop supporting her on a monthly basis. If she truly cares about you (and doesn't want a bar job), she will be satisfied with finding a way to support herself until you can eventually be together again full time. My relationship lasted for almost 4 years. I never supported her monthly in the same fashion as you are, but I was in Thailand about 4 times a year, and often paid her rent for that month, and at times helped her family a bit, and of course occasionally shopping. During the 4 years, she stopped several times working at the bars, but always asked my and told me when she returned. It was unrealistic for me to support her while not living together, nor could I ask or expect her to work a miserable job for 7-8,000B a month. We are still on good terms, and if I am ever a situation that we can be together full time, we can reevaluate her work situation. Good luck

[scottieM]

18/20.000 is far more the General average salary of people in many countries, including Thailand.
Dont take me a supporter of slavery, but by the funding You Are not any good to anyone. She for one and your wallet too.
There must be an education process in funding. This is not happening.
Starving people should be given a boat and taught how to fish, not pay their restaurant bill.

[scottieM]

I'm sponsoring a ladyboy and I've had the same discussions with him about finding "legitimate" work, having some other income to fall back on, getting off his ass, but I've come to the conclusion that its not easy for a ladyboy to find or hold down a steady job and I'm not going to push things.

dont take me wrong but why after so many posts and having been in a relationship with a LB you refer to your partner as "he/him"?

[yung havok]

dont take me wrong but why after so many posts and having been in a relationship with a LB you refer to your partner as "he/him"?

I'm not sure, I think its an issue of reality and perception. Hes a 22 year old boy with long hair and a big cock. Its hard to intellectualize why but I adore him more because of the boy he is than the lady he tries to be. Hes a boy and he knows it, if at some point he makes the effort to deface and mutilate his body with surgeries and silicone i will extend him the courtesy of calling him "she". I don't think it should be seen as an insult to call a ladyboy "boy"or he or him it seems more important to self conscious guys fighting some inner conflict with there sexuality.

[Teppis]

There are jobs available for ladyboys outside P4P, but for probably not much above minimum wage, that's perhaps around B300 per day, plus the long hours. Sounds too much like hard work for such little gain, in her eyes.

 

It seems she's got things pretty easy with you looking after her for so long and probably thinks you'll just continue paying her to get up whenever she wants, sit on her backside chatting with her friends whenever it suits her and with zero incentive to do anything worthwhile above and beyond that cushy lifestyle.

 

In my honest opinion I think you've been giving her far too much and she's now got used to it and become lazy. Must be great to have a rich foreigner take care of all your financial needs.

 

Maybe she needs a wake-up call.

 

Dix hit the nail with this comment, she is lazy because you give her twice as much as "normal" thai get from her job (without proper education) so why she should change this ideal situation for her, double salary without doing anything. Tell her to go Big-C or similar big shopping mall. When Sonya quit working in Linda Bar, she got job from Big-C immediately even when she didn't had education. Luckily she was smart enough and finished her school later with my support at same time when she worked in Big-C. It took 2 years but she did it. For now she is working in Big Camera-shop and have chance to get much better salary than without education.

 

Anyway, put some pressure to your girl and tell that she must go to work and only then you will continue to support her with some sum of money... and if she says that she will go to bar... well, then you should know where your relationship is.