Well, it's been a long time since I've posted here, and much water under the bridge for me, so I'd like to bring things up to date a bit...and ask a question.
Over the past few years, I have found myself living in Bangkok for a year with my lb girlfriend (of four years now), and returning to the states to deal with things and suffering the long separation (over a year now). All the while - almost four years now - I have fully supported my girlfriend in Bangkok, which was my choice. She had worked in a bar for a year or so, hated it (I know that IS true, trust me on that) but I didn't meet her in a bar and, in fact, met her after she had quit.
We enjoyed a great life together in Bangkok, me working and she not, and have even planned to get married when we can.
The time we have been separated has been difficult, and longer than anticipated, making it even more difficult. I have often struggled, even borrowed, and sacrificed myself to support her, because that's the kind of guy I am, and if I love someone I will be fully committed.
Most of her friends are former bar girls, and I am not unaware of the fact that there is an entire culture built around using men for money, nor am I blind to the fact that working in a bar is also like going to school in ways to get men to support the girls...sometimes many men. I am quite sure she isn't getting money from other men, and believe she has been sincere in wanting to get married to me.
However, and here lies the meat behind my question, as it has sometimes been a struggle for me to balance everything financially, I have at times suggested that she might find some work to supplement what I give her. Her response is, and has always been, that it is basically "impossible" for a ladyboy without a college degree to get a job doing anything other than in a bar. I have gone along with it, believing that, if the desire is strong enough, anything is possible...even a job for a ladyboy without a college degree. But her insistence, and the continued pressure I get, has worn thin.
So, my question to those of you with actual experience living in Bangkok, or having spent a lot of time there among ladyboys, is simple; Is that true? Just HOW hard is it for a ladyboy who is good looking, personable, and smart, but without a degree or any real experience, to get a simple job? Not a great job, not one that pays a lot, but some kind of fucking job - not fucking. Just a job to supplement what I give her.
I spent a year in Bangkok and 100 percent of my time there with ladyboys, so I am not totally blind, but most of them have money from their families, sponsors, or have degrees and normal employment...and many are former bar girls, while some are not. But is it even possible that it is THAT IMPOSSIBLE to get a damn job?
Thanks mates!!!